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It's funny this fourm has some nice single men & women on it yet no one has made a move. That I know of at least.
Yeah really.
People on here should hook up.
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Originally Posted by srjth
I love that the nice ladies are starting to complain just as much as the nice guys.
I think its because when we were kids we were taught that, you're rewarded for doing good things and being a good person. But you grow up and find that it isn't the case all the time, and people get frustrated because of it. I can't blame anyone for it cause I feel it too. People have to complain every now and then so they don't go crazy... thats fine... its the people that never stop that are a problem.
Eh, I don't complain anymore. I just accept that everything is stacked against me because of my upbringing.
Like I said, I just live my life.
That's exactly how I feel. I know I'm not attractive (and I don't mean just physically) to the majority of men and I'm ok with it. I just concentrate on my life and if something comes along then so be it.
But if he's not physically attracted to you in the first place, there is nothing you can do to make him 'feel' like he wants you.
It's the sad truth. I've had a bunch of guys tell me they adored me and would date me in a heartbeat if I was a bit more physically attractive. The last guy I went on a date with told me 'You're amazing and would make an awesome girlfriend...but you're just too tall for me, sorry'. He was 6'5, btw.
Sorry -- coming in late but I'm going to have to throw the BS flag on that one. In my time I've known plenty of guys who weren't into someone on a physical level and, after getting to know them, BEGAN to see them as girlfriend/wife material.
JJ, I've said it before and I'll say it again: I'd toss you over a shoulder, haul you off for keeps and never look back. Ain't skeert in the least, not of your height OR you being a "big gal". Once we're lying down we're the same height, and I pack more than enough muscle to make wrestling a whole lotta fun. I don't know where you are or around whom you're hanging, but clearly you need a MAN in your life rather than boys.
Anyway, for all the women out there who think for men it's all about looks -- if you really believe that you've been chasing the wrong ones.
It's funny this fourm has some nice single men & women on it yet no one has made a move. That I know of at least.
I have. And so far so good.
I was always considered a good girl even growing up. I had my moments of dabbling in being a beyotch, but those were short lived. I find you need to have a mixture of being your own woman, having your own interests, but also being able to treat your man like a king in the bedroom and out, especially if he deserves it.
I was extremely lucky enough to hit the jackpot with one of the nice guys on here. So yeah some of the nice girls can find something with some of the nice guys on here.
Sorry -- coming in late but I'm going to have to throw the BS flag on that one. In my time I've known plenty of guys who weren't into someone on a physical level and, after getting to know them, BEGAN to see them as girlfriend/wife material.
JJ, I've said it before and I'll say it again: I'd toss you over a shoulder, haul you off for keeps and never look back. Ain't skeert in the least, not of your height OR you being a "big gal". Once we're lying down we're the same height, and I pack more than enough muscle to make wrestling a whole lotta fun. I don't know where you are or around whom you're hanging, but clearly you need a MAN in your life rather than boys.
Anyway, for all the women out there who think for men it's all about looks -- if you really believe that you've been chasing the wrong ones.
Then you're one of the rare ones. I've met maybe 3 men in my life who have said they weren't originally attracted to their girlfriends/wives but as they got to know them they became attractive. Usually the awesome but unattractive girls get relegated to FWB or just plain friend status until a hotter girls comes around. Like I mentioned before, my ex said he was embarrassed to be seen with me in public because I wasn't as pretty as his friends girlfriends. He said he liked me in every other way, but would NEVER invite me to any of his work functions or out to places where he knew his friends would be. You have no idea how many times I've heard the phrase 'She's amazing...too bad she isn't hot'.
Regarding the 'once we're lying down we're the same height thing' I was seeing a guy a few years back (while he was seeing other women, of course...heaven forbid a guy pick just one girl at a time) and he told me it was 'gross' that his feet only went up to my calves when we were sleeping, so that's not entirely true
I know a lot of it is the area I live in, and I'm hoping that moving to a new area will re-shape the views I currently have.
Then you're one of the rare ones. I've met maybe 3 men in my life who have said they weren't originally attracted to their girlfriends/wives but as they got to know them they became attractive. Usually the awesome but unattractive girls get relegated to FWB or just plain friend status until a hotter girls comes around. Like I mentioned before, my ex said he was embarrassed to be seen with me in public because I wasn't as pretty as his friends girlfriends. He said he liked me in every other way, but would NEVER invite me to any of his work functions or out to places where he knew his friends would be. You have no idea how many times I've heard the phrase 'She's amazing...too bad she isn't hot'.
Regarding the 'once we're lying down we're the same height thing' I was seeing a guy a few years back (while he was seeing other women, of course...heaven forbid a guy pick just one girl at a time) and he told me it was 'gross' that his feet only went up to my calves when we were sleeping, so that's not entirely true
I know a lot of it is the area I live in, and I'm hoping that moving to a new area will re-shape the views I currently have.
Definitely sounds like you need a location change. I know a lot of guys in California that are superficial. I went to San Diego and was called fat and ugly by random guys on the street for no reason at all.
It's like if you're not skinny, blonde and drop dead gorgeous they don't want to know you.
Definitely sounds like you need a location change. I know a lot of guys in California that are superficial. I went to San Diego and was called fat and ugly by random guys on the street for no reason at all.
It's like if you're not skinny, blonde and drop dead gorgeous they don't want to know you.
California in general is extremely superficial, and I actually think of it as a human supply/demand. Where I live, a little over 50% of the population attends the local university. There is an overabundance of cute, skinny, blonde college girls (we lovingly refer to them as 'Poly Dollies'. They're the type who wear Ugg boots with cooter showing miniskirts) so why would a guy 'settle' for a girl like me? I've actually been told that by a few men I know... why settle for a 'normal' girl when there are ALWAYS naive, gorgeous, young college girls around?
San Diego wasn't too bad for me, but Long Beach was horrible. A friend of mine lived down there and I'd go visit him and his girlfriend here and there and I couldn't believe how outwardly mean people were. I was called every name on the planet and openly pointed at and laughed at in bars. It was incredible.
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