Cheating behaviors (sex, affair, friend, relations)

[aspentree]

This relates to a friend of mine.

At what point does someone cross into the area of genuinely thinking your SO is cheating without any behaviors that point to them cheating with a specific individual.

If you have been cheated on, did you just have mere suspicions at first, with no real proof?

Friend's SO has occasional episodes of binge drinking and staying out all night without really giving any explanation of what is going on. Friend thinks any rational person would view such activities as having the possibility of ONS happening etc., but since her SO denies everything...she feels as if she is crazy if she stays. She states the relationship is good otherwise except for the episodes of binge drinking which occur less than monthly.

[RedZin]

She needs to figure out why he's binge drinking and staying out all night without contacting her.

And make sure that if she's having sex with him, she's using a condom until they sort this out.

I'd not focus on the "what if he's having an affair" aspect.

Why the heck is he binge drinking and staying out all night minus an explanation?

It may not even have anything to do with infidelity. Binge drinking in and of itself isn't a good idea.

[BLAZER PROPHET]

I didn't quite understand your post. Aside from having no idea what "ONS" means (or maybe I'm just SOLMR), I can't tell from it who's staying out all night- him or her?

[aspentree]

ONS....one night stand.

He is staying out all night...sorry for the confusion.

[BLAZER PROPHET]

I agree with 'meh', don't get hung on speculation and focus on the drinking.

[srjth]

I know someone going through this too. After months of fighting about it, she left him this week.

[the minx]

Curious how long they've been together?

[rego00123]

Originally Posted by meh_whatever

She needs to figure out why he's binge drinking and staying out all night without contacting her.

And make sure that if she's having sex with him, she's using a condom until they sort this out.

I'd not focus on the "what if he's having an affair" aspect.

Why the heck is he binge drinking and staying out all night minus an explanation?

It may not even have anything to do with infidelity. Binge drinking in and of itself isn't a good idea.

this post.

[aspentree]

Over 10 years. According to her there have been times when stuff like this would happen once a year or so...stopped altogether for a while, then restarted again.

[the minx]

Geez. I was expecting it to be a newer relationship. Yeah, definitely some issues there with the binge drinking. He may not even be aware of what he's up to when he's drinking...