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There was this guy who hurt me pretty bad this year. We tried to be friends but he still made me think we were going out. And when he got a gf, he ditched me. When they broke up, he wanted to be "friends" again. I didn't have a good feeling about it so I didn't want to be in touch. I asked him to not contact me until I felt I was ready, but he didn't respect my wish and still contacted me. I had to block him from everything. But after doing so, it made me miss him all the more, probably because he was no longer available completely. I know he isn't good for me, but it's been a week and a half since I last spoke with him, and I've been thinking of contacting him since. I know a lot of people get themselves into trouble by being in contact with people who don't have their best interests at heart. I don't want to be that person who gets ditched again and treated like a last resort. But I can't help but miss him anyway and just wish he wasn't such an ahole. Oh well, you can't change people. I just figured it hurts now but it's better to let it hurt now and let it pass than to always hurt when he's in my life even as a friend.
People will treat you how you ALLOW them to treat you. Don't be a doormat for anyone. You have your self worth. Take the high road. Leave the lowlifes to fend for themselves.
Ok...Your gut feelings are correct. Follow up with the things you wrote towards the last of you post. Keep reaffirming yourself about not inviting him back into your life, it will not work for you.
Remember that our gut instincts are usually right on, even if we begin to doubt them.
True words often said.... The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
Last edited by JanND; 02-06-2013 at 08:25 PM..
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The only chance you have of being anything more than a side girl to this guy IS to stick to No contact. You cannot carry on accepting his only wanting you around when he does not have better options. You will get over him and then have a level playing field once you are over him. Chances are you won't want him if you go no contact long enough. That would be good considering he has not treated you well.
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