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He was engaging her in conversation and probably could see past her appearance to her real personality. Either way, YOU got her phone number and next week you'll be posting and cranking you are dateless and desperate.
thanks for the contributions... but no need to be pejorative.
I have no idea what constitutes a gay thing vs. a straight thing when it comes to this thread.
I had a guy quite aggressively try to get me and my friend to dance/hang out with his friend. So yeah straight guys willingly participate in this sort of behavior.
I've been a go between/sort of matchmaker for two couples who eventually were married.
Its because that is where our conversation went, when this took place. It was actualy his caim, that in the gay world this is pretty normal to which our response was that in the straight world it isnt like that. Honestly, I would never ask another person to get me a womans phone number, because that would put me at an instant disadvantage of being seen as someone indirect, which im far from.
No, I havent called her. Im considering it, but to be perfectly honest my only interest in talking to her would be to find out what she thought of someone else getting me her phone number. I think she just wanted to sleep with me, which is fine - but ive been actively decluttering my love life in recent weeks, since dating several women at once brings more daily drama than i care for. We'll see, if i do call her and decide to give her the gift =), ill let you all know.
So I went to a bar last night with some friends, mostly attractive girls and we had alot of fun. There was a gay guy with us, a younger kid, super cool and social. He started talking to table of four girls and figured that one of them was most attractive. He then joined us outside and told me that i should approach this girl, because she is nice and very attractive. I checked her out for a minute and thought she was somewhat attractive but certainly not the most attractive girl in a bar, which is someone Id usually approach.
I told him that Ill think about it and maybe go over and talk to her at some point. Few minutes later he brings me her phone number and says "I pointed you out to her and she thought you were cute and wrote down her number for you in like 10 seconds". The girls I was hanging with started giggling and we got into this whole conversation about straight world versus gay world approaches. We explained to him, that in the straight world a guy approaches a girl himself and doesn't ask his buddy to go over and get a number, because that would be a pansy and an indirect way to approach a woman. He seemed shocked that thats the case and told us that this is not how it works in the gay world.
Most girls said that if this happened to them, they would simply tell the guy to come up himself and ask for a phone number, which makes perfect sense. What do you think of this whole deal? Is there an actual difference in straight world versus gay world approaches? Is there any other differences between the two that stand out to you? Have you ever had anything like this happen in your life?
There's no difference between the two "worlds" a sissy who uses his/her friend to get someone's attention will be labeled such in either "worlld". Everyone likes a direct approach
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I don't know what it's like in the 'gay world', but maybe gay guys do 'put in a word' for their mates moreso than straight guys, who knows. Maybe there's less fear of not being 'man enough' for the ladies? Maybe there's more comaraderie among gay men? Maybe it's just the circle he hangs with?
Anyway, I think it's sort of weird for a grown adult to go and ask for someone's phone number to give to someone else if they're in the SAME PLACE. Why didn't he just introduce her to you?
I know, older topic, but it had some interesting perspectives so I brought it back up.
Most of the time when I have been out with gay friends they don't find the women im interested in attractive " what do you see in her? She has a too big- fill in the blank". Most of my straight friends usually sugar coat their opinion or dont say anything, which is fine with me.
I have a couple of gay friends and I have noticed they are much more bold when approaching potential partners and much more receptive to being approached. Love it.
This reminds me when me and my friends did a prank to a friend who was getting married while I was in the USA. We were celebrating and enjoying a bachelor party and decided to take him out for "dinner" but we took him to a gay bar instead. Some of us were approached by other men to invite us a drink, chat, and even join their party/table. Wouldn't it be great if girls were that way and not just a few exceptions? But anyways, yeah, it was an interesting experience. I don't support their lifestyle but I don't hate them as long as they don't push me to support them.
Not sure about having a messenger go get someone's phone number though.
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But anyways, yeah, it was an interesting experience. I don't support their lifestyle but I don't hate them as long as they don't push me to support them.
