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So during a fight with bf, he said that he felt the urge to call his ex wife because he just needed someone at that time.
We had fights in the past about how he couldnt quit talking about the ex. I let him know that it hurt me when he talks about the ex. So he hasn't talked about her anymore. But now this?
Does it tell anything?
But he denies that he still have feelings for her. I feel so confused, I don't want to make a fuss out anthill but also don't want to be with someone who's heart is not with me. I lost my judgement....please help.
You have been told 3 times by 3 different posters that he still has feelings for her because 3 different posters have more than likely had experience with this type of situation.
Either accept the fact that he always tells you the truth and has no feelings for her like he says (which I'm sure is NOT the truth) and stay in this relationship and watch it get worse and your misery get worse OR leave now and be done with this entire mess because no matter what your boyfriend tells you...........HE STILL HAS FEELINGS FOR HIS EX.
Don't make excuses why you can't leave just leave and be done with it or stay and be miserable but do NOT whine about staying and things getting worse and you finding out he actually lied to you.
I don't want to make a fuss out anthill but also don't want to be with someone who's heart is not with me. I lost my judgement....please help.
There are pieces to the puzzle that are unknown. Do you know his ex? Do they have children together? How long were they married? Why did they break up? Are they still friends?
Even with all those questions, it's wrong of him to go running to his ex for comfort and advice on your relationship. It shows that he is still dependent on her.
Without knowing all the details....it may be that he secretly wishes they were back together and still loves her. He is not going to tell you that he still has feelings for her.
There are pieces to the puzzle that are unknown. Do you know his ex? Do they have children together? How long were they married? Why did they break up? Are they still friends?
Even with all those questions, it's wrong of him to go running to his ex for comfort and advice on your relationship. It shows that he is still dependent on her.
Without knowing all the details....it may be that he secretly wishes they were back together and still loves her. He is not going to tell you that he still has feelings for her.
yes i know his ex, I met her very early in our relationship( went with him to drop off his daughter to his ex). so yes they have a kid together, they've been together 9 years. she was his first everything( first woman, first gf etc). he said they broke up because he gambled and lost some money( not that significant amount. he always gambled on football since they started dating so it shouldnt be something new to her. so she kicked him out when the baby was 9 months and started dating someone she knew while she's married right after the divorce) The bf tries everything to stay friends with the ex, he says for the daughter's sake. The ex didnt seem to care about him that much.
so they don't really talk except when it's something about the daughter. I dont understand why he would want to seek comfort from her.
He does say nice things about the ex, like oh she's nice person, good mom, attractive...etc.
yes i know his ex, I met her very early in our relationship( went with him to drop off his daughter to his ex). so yes they have a kid together, they've been together 9 years. she was his first everything( first woman, first gf etc). he said they broke up because he gambled and lost some money( not that significant amount. he always gambled on football since they started dating so it shouldnt be something new to her. so she kicked him out when the baby was 9 months and started dating someone she knew while she's married right after the divorce) The bf tries everything to stay friends with the ex, he says for the daughter's sake. The ex didnt seem to care about him that much.
so they don't really talk except when it's something about the daughter. I dont understand why he would want to seek comfort from her.
He does say nice things about the ex, like oh she's nice person, good mom, attractive...etc.
This post confirms that the first 3 response to your initial question were spot on. He STILL has feelings for her...that is why he "seeks comfort from her."
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