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Sex clouds a lot of peoples judgements. 90% of relationship problems stem from getting physical early in the relationship. People don't like hearing this but it is the truth.
Its one thing to meet someone and eventually find out that they are cheaters, have kids with mulitple men or women, etc, etc
Its another when you know this from the beginning and yet you still get into a serious relationship, expecting he or she to change overnight.
Are we so desperate for love that we are willing to do anything, or overlook everything to get it?
I do not believe most people are so desperate for love that they will overlook major red flags to get it. I do think a lot of people present themselves as something they are not, and good, decent, trusting people can be tricked by their phony facade. The wrong people often say and do all the right things initially. Unfortunately, sometimes it takes awhile to realize you've been deceived and the person you are involved with is not who you thought they were.
Its one thing to meet someone and eventually find out that they are cheaters, have kids with mulitple men or women, etc, etc
Its another when you know this from the beginning and yet you still get into a serious relationship, expecting he or she to change overnight.
Are we so desperate for love that we are willing to do anything, or overlook everything to get it?
Why? Because some people DON'T THINK.
They don't ask themselves, "Okay, what could possibly go wrong here?"
They don't say to themselves, "If he's cheating on her, he'll cheat on me."
They don't say to themselves, "You know, I deserve to hang with a better crowd."
They don't say to themselves, "You know, I'm going to give it time before having a roll in the hay."
They don't pay attention to what a person does, instead relying on what a person says.
Because they don't have any self-esteem, they don't say to themselves, "You know I think I'd rather sit at home on Saturday night and read a good book than date a total scumbag."
Hope that helps. I really used to feel sorry for people like that. But, you know what? It's their own damned fault.
Its one thing to meet someone and eventually find out that they are cheaters, have kids with mulitple men or women, etc, etc
Its another when you know this from the beginning and yet you still get into a serious relationship, expecting he or she to change overnight.
Are we so desperate for love that we are willing to do anything, or overlook everything to get it?
The reason is because we are people, humans and overall I think when we are young and naive we look for the good in everyone and just know without doubt that someone WILL change just for us because we are special. After we mature, grow and change some of us figure that out because we are not as naive as we were before and we make the change to move on instead of waiting for someone else to change.
CSD 610 Bingo. When we are young it's more about the fun. I certainly wouldn't be attracted to the same type of person I was attracted to when I was young. I would have a totally different criterion of whom I would date if I were single today.
Most every available woman I meet have a history of dating down. Usually the former boyfriends are good looking but are are either financial derilicts or have some other unsavory characteristic. I have to do a double check when I'm dating "Why am I seeing someone who has a history of dating less then ideal men?". I have a bit of a Savior complex so maybe thats the common denominator
Its one thing to meet someone and eventually find out that they are cheaters, have kids with mulitple men or women, etc, etc
Its another when you know this from the beginning and yet you still get into a serious relationship, expecting he or she to change overnight.
Are we so desperate for love that we are willing to do anything, or overlook everything to get it?
Wife has a friend not yet divorced, who hooked up with a guy like this. I think part of it is she's out to prove everyone wrong. It's ended several times with him showing his true colors, but she's taken him back every time because she knows he'll "change" after she laid out the rules again. Just waiting for the next drama which won't be too long.
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