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Has anyone ever created a thread on the intimate relationships forum, in which you asked a question pertaining to the whereabouts/thought processes, and behavors of others, in which posters attempted to explain to you your thought processes and behaviors, when you hadn't asked anyone to try to understand you, and been assisted by such comments?
Granted, you can learn about yourself through comparing yourself to others, but I'm more referring to the probable inaccuracy of stranger A on the internet, trying to explain to stranger B - how stranger B's specific thought processes work...stranger A trying to judge motivations and such of stranger B rather than explaining stranger A's own experiences, or experiences of others stranger A has known. Has anyone ever found these types of responses to be accurate?
Sometimes multiple posts from people help us "know" them to a limited extent, and when an obvious problem (meta) in how they deal with people is screaming to be dealt with, I'm gonna mention it.
What they said plus wt_, I haven't had my cheerios yet?
You people are confusing.
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Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life
I get what you're saying.
Sometimes multiple posts from people help us "know" them to a limited extent, and when an obvious problem (meta) in how they deal with people is screaming to be dealt with, I'm gonna mention it.
I don't see a problem. I've often seen people on here verbalize things that I was thinking, but didn't have words for.
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Originally Posted by Elle Oh Elle
Same here.
I see an endless stream of comments resulting in my thoughts becomming something like: How can they know that? I've known people like they're talking about, who aren't like that at all. If someone has a common personality, thought process, or life situation, why would they post about it anyway? Therefore, most problems probably posted about are likely the unusual ones which most people's experiences are not applicable for...and if something sounds unlikely, it could very well be true nonetheless.
I remember a thread where a guy was nervous about being around a homosexual friend, supposedly because he hit a homosexual man who made a move on him in the supermarket. People didn't believe his motives. I remember thinking: If you're not going to believe part of what an OP writes, why believe any of it? Why not just not comment at all?
There was another thread in which a woman was wondering how to get male friends. Posters were worrying about whether or not her urge for male friends was natural. Who cares and why, particularly because she never asked whether or not what she wanted was natural?
There seems to be lots of these types of examples of people making comments, not asked for, probably coming from people who, while they might be wise, probably don't know the person they're commenting on the personality of better than that person knows his or herself.
I'd view this as potentialy extremely insulting, if the views stated and not asked for are negative, or if there's disbelief about what the OP says.
There are, of course the crazies who somebody should say something about...but a lot of posters aren't crazy.
Last edited by Clintone; 10-14-2012 at 11:50 PM..
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