A simple question for women (clubs, different, tattoo, NYC)
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My GF gets hit on pretty regularly. 2-3 times a week on average. She says she would rather it not happen at all.
I find this statement very hard to believe.
For women that get hit on regularly and in a relationship or have been, be honest, would you seriously say you would rather not be hit on at all?
you don't know what you got till its gone..........
You have a very smart girlfriend. Maybe she has noticed you are (possibly?) the jealous type. Everyone wants to feel desired. If you look at it from a certain angle. Guys hitting on her is a compliment to YOU and your good taste. What would you propose as a remedy? Have her go around in a gunny sack with a scarf on her head? If she's Angelina, Halle, Gabrielle or Jennifer beautiful, that's not gonna change anything...she's still gonna get hit on!
I like compliments, and unfortunately the hitting on part comes with it sometimes. You just have to decide once and for all to trust your lady and forget about it.
Cool so no complaints about you about guys being expected to pay for every/most dates or if many gals pursued you solely because of your wealth and responded negatively if you rebuffed her.
Yeah, that sounds about right. If I am with a girl, it's because I like her. So I'd plan the date and if money came up, I would pay. And a woman can say whatever she wants if I reject her, I'd still be polite.
It does get bad sometimes and like others said it is about the approach.
The last annoying one I got was in Manhattan. I had on a dress with flowers on it, and it's relatively clingy. Some guy asked me if he could smell my flowers.
The one before that approached me while I was opening mail in a train station. (I have to check the mail for my job once a week and deposit all checks). He had the audacity to make his opening line to me "Oh you can do that when you get home" to get my attention. I said "Excuse me? No I can't I'm on the clock". Maybe I'm just sensitive, but I found it kind of rude that a guy would tell me out of nowhere to stop what I'm doing (which was work related no less) so he could try to hit on me.
There are also guys who don't handle it well. What I find funny is the first insults they always tend to throw out when you reject them is you're either fat or ugly. When they would try to throw this at me, I would always throw back at them, then why did they try to hit on me then? After that is always the beyatch word of course.
What I found more annoying were the ones who hit on me when I had an engagement or wedding ring on. I would always hold up my hand to show the ring, and they would snap back with "What he doesn't know won't hurt him" or some equally obnoxious comeback.
I wonder what the BF thinks when he gets hit on. He's been getting hit on a few times a week by women.
Well, its like people telling me that I'm tall. The first few times, I'm okay with it. After a hundred times, then I get really tired of it.
I am tall, but I am by no means a basketball player, LOL!!!
I was once in a class where one girl went head over heels over my eyes and called a whole group over to look at my eyes as if I was some sort of animal at display in a zoo. Being pretty boy isn't easy, if you like to be a private person.
It does get bad sometimes and like others said it is about the approach.
The last annoying one I got was in Manhattan. I had on a dress with flowers on it, and it's relatively clingy. Some guy asked me if he could smell my flowers.
Hahahaha love it! It's kind of cute to me.
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What I found more annoying were the ones who hit on me when I had an engagement or wedding ring on. I would always hold up my hand to show the ring, and they would snap back with "What he doesn't know won't hurt him" or some equally obnoxious comeback.
I can only remember one time getting hit on when I was with my ex-husband. He hit on me pretty overtly and then when I told him that I'm sorry I am engaged, he said "Can't you have friends? He doesn't have to know." I'm sure he meant FWB. I said no thank you.
I was once in a class where one girl went head over heels over my eyes and called a whole group over to look at my eyes as if I was some sort of animal at display in a zoo. Being pretty boy isn't easy, if you like to be a private person.
It's more likely that they come on C-D and post threads about how they're so great and do everything right and these women don't know what they want and they just want jerks.
Honestly, I don't know. It does seem like there are an awful lot of timid and socially awkward people who can't just roll with an "I'm not interested." They've put so much stock in starting the conversation that a polite turn-down is the same as a slap in the face. Luckily for all of us, there's the happy medium of cool people who are neither too pushy or too scared to make anything happen.
Why shouldn't they be socially awkward? Apparently they'll get rejected anyway. Better to not try if this thread is anything to go by.
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