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He feels bad for having cheated on her but he probably had reasons for it. Back then people married out of obligation and social pressure. She was the official wife, he knocked her up a few times to produce children and then he went to women who really knew how to please him. Can't blame the old man.
Give him your support though.
I can't see why, at least he was being honest with everybody.
In this case it isn't a matter of "honesty", it was the impression left upon someone that may not understand why Grand dad is hanging with a woman other than his Grand Mother. If he wanted to be a douche (and being an honest douche is still being a douche), fine but leave the grand kids out of it.
In this case it isn't a matter of "honesty", it was the impression left upon someone that may not understand why Grand dad is hanging with a woman other than his Grand Mother. If he wanted to be a douche (and being an honest douche is still being a douche), fine but leave the grand kids out of it.
He wasn't a douche, his wife knew about it all the time. There wouldn't be any impression left on a child other than grandad having some fun.
Just because he liked having different women (mistresses) in his life does not mean he couldn't love your Grandmother...maybe he just couldn't resist, and since your Grandma was obviously a forgiving and tolerant woman, he loved her even more...There are no "rules" to loving someone deeply. I see no hipocracy in his devastation at the loss of a women he loved and shared so much with...She was probably his "rock", his stability in life, constant, and reliable, his mourning is understandable.
My grandmother was gorgeous when she was younger and kept looking great until later in life. I've seen pictures of her from the 50s and she looked like an 'It Girl'. It was not like he had a hideous wife.
My grandmother was gorgeous when she was younger and kept looking great until later in life. I've seen pictures of her from the 50s and she looked like an 'It Girl'. It was not like he had a hideous wife.
Just a pity she was terrible in bed. The number of times she gave him sex was probably not much higher than the 3 sons they had.
My grandparents were married for 54 years. For decades my grandfather had a revolving door of mistresses. He always had an eye for pretty women and wouldn't let the best ones escape (he was extremely good looking when he was younger and up to his 50s). He was a very hard worker, very responsible when it came to the children (even though he was mostly absent) and never mistreated my grandmother. She was in charge at home and he complied. Her word was law.
My grandmother always knew but stayed in her position as a faithful and dedicated wife and mother. She didn't work and was completely dependent on him. She was also very religious and came from an ultraconservative family, so there was no choice but to keep the marriage.
Even as kid I remember sometimes seeing my grandfather in the car with much younger women.
She died just over a year ago from breast cancer. The other day I noticed that my grandfather, always a very arrogant, masculine, full of himself type of guy, now has a picture of her on his desk in the studio. He still doesn't allow anyone to sit in her place at the table.
At her funeral, I couldn't believe when I saw him washed in tears, totally devastated. I mean, this sounds cruel, but now he can have all the women he wants (sure he's old but he has the money). Why be such an hipocrite in the end?
No disrespect to your grandfather but he did mistreat your grandmother with the revolving door of mistresses. This is the old school so I respect that. Bottom line, when you are dealing with the old generation when things aren't working out they just didn't file for divorce. It was always seen as the man is the provider, the leader, and the woman takes care of the family. If that is in order, then the rest is up in the air. I just can't think like that
I will never understand men/women who cheat, lie, have these behaviors but then want to cry a river over the spouse who they lost and so called loved. I do feel your grandfather loved your grandmother unconditionally, but I feel that if someone loves you unconditionally there should be no cheating. He probably felt guilty and had time to sit and think about the only woman who was there over fifty plus years and there are no mistresses to be found
That is usually how it goes.
I do hope he has made peace with her, his behavior, and his feelings for your grandmother
No disrespect to your grandfather but he did mistreat your grandmother with the revolving door of mistresses. This is the old school so I respect that. Bottom line, when you are dealing with the old generation when things aren't working out they just didn't file for divorce. It was always seen as the man is the provider, the leader, and the woman takes care of the family. If that is in order, then the rest is up in the air. I just can't think like that
I will never understand men/women who cheat, lie, have these behaviors but then want to cry a river over the spouse who they lost and so called loved. I do feel your grandfather loved your grandmother unconditionally, but I feel that if someone loves you unconditionally there should be no cheating. He probably felt guilty and had time to sit and think about the only woman who was there over fifty plus years and there are no mistresses to be found
That is usually how it goes.
I do hope he has made peace with her, his behavior, and his feelings for your grandmother
He used the circumstances in his advantage. Smart man.
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