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Women are complex and do it to hurt. Sometimes they do still care.
^^^^
This.
KNOWING this about women, I can safely assume one of two things:
1. She wants to hurt me by telling me she's "written me off" completely. If she actually just wanted it ENDED, she'd simply vanish (despite all the "maturity" BS so frequently tossed around that IS how the majority of people handle such things). That she feels the need to take the time to tell me (unless I approached her) means she WANTS me to know, and WANTS me to feel a sting.
2. By doing this, whether she's doing it to hurt me OR has actually simply done it, she's let me know precisely what I am/was worth to her. I'm either worth enough for angry "lashing out" OR I'm not worth the time it would take to maturely break up.
And that means she's worth $#!+ to me. I've made the dreadful mistake of wondering, pining and questioning before, wallowing in self-doubt over someone who, ultimately, proved to me they didn't care enough to let me go but instead took the coward's way out because it was easier for them. The fact that someone is willing to leave you hanging and wondering because it's easier for them is a pretty good indicator of where you stood all along in their estimation -- and the only REAL question is why you'd waste time making a priority of someone else for whom YOU were, at best, only an option?
"I've deleted your number."
"Why?"
"Because I'm done with you, we're over."
"The fact that you need to tell me makes you a liar. The fact that THIS is how we're 'done and over' tells me you're right, we are -- but not necessarily for the reason you think. Since we're making it clear to one another, feel free to kiss my arse on your way to Hell, and goodbye."
I clean my contact list off pretty often. If I haven't talked to someone in 6+ months I delete them. Not out of spite, just because what's the point of keeping it?
Some people get deleted even faster, depending on the circumstances, but I never go and announce "I deleted your number". Chances are they won't care anyway because they probably feel the same way about me.
I need to do that.
The best was changing cell phone numbers without letting a big group of people know. My logic was; I moved, I should get a local number and I don't like you there is no reason to talk to you.
Feel bad? You should feel embarassed about the immature, drunk text to your boss no less.
Deleting his number and telling him is the least of your problems if it's a problem at all.
Agree with this, He was probably looking "like sad" because now he knows he has a human resources problem on his hands. A love-struck subordinate who is a problem drinker is going to be a huge pain in his ass and potentially damaging to his team and his position.
Next time youre at work, take all your clothes off, wrap yourself in a ribbon and go into your bosses office singing "Im sorry, so sorry". WHy do people delete phone numbers anyway? Todays phones can handle thousands of contacts and if you know too many people with the same name, start using their lasty names or give them nicknames. I just have a feeling that some deranged minds simply get some satisfaction out fo the act, which is a little sad IMO.
Just do it. The only point of telling someone you did it is to poke and jab and that's head games and game playing in general. Delete it and move on.
^ Second this. You don't need to tell the person; if you do, you are definitely playing games. If you genuinely don't want to hear from a person again (or call the person), you just delete the number and if he calls, don't respond.
ETA: Oh my goodness, I just remembered something. I think I was 23 at the time and the guy was 25 or 26. We broke up and I didn't call him or pursue him or anything. I mean that's what a break-up is, right? So a couple of months later he called me at work. I tried to call him back from home and I received a message that my number had been blocked.
So eventually he called me again and I told him, "I don't know why you're calling me. I did try to call you back but you blocked my number." He kind of giggled and said, "Oh, I just didn't want to hear from you so I blocked your number, but I forgot later that I had done that."
Eeew. I told him to go away or this time I'd be the one to block his number and I sure as shoot wouldn't be calling him in the future with a giggle and a middle school explanation. And remember, folks. It was horrifying and embarrassing in a guy of only 25. Doing stuff like this past, say, the age of 14 is just...eew. You can never look at the person as a grown-up or desirable again, or at least I couldn't. At least all this reinforced my decision to break up!
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