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Here is the hypothetical situation, based loosely on fact:
Man and woman go out to eat. Woman goes to the restroom and asks the man to order for her if the waiter comes around. Woman returns from bathroom, waiter has visited, but man did not order. The reason? Someone else got the waiter's attention and is taking a long time talking to the waiter. Woman waits patiently for several minutes and then waiter dissapears. Woman becomes annoyed, accuses man of not performing a simple task and says that it means more about his character-- that he is not assertive enough, etc. Man responds that he didn't know this was a test, and that its not a fair assessment. Woman gets the waiter's attention herself eventually but notes this behavior.
What do you think of this? Can people extrapolate deeper characteristics from simple examples of everyday interaction? Is it fair to do this? Do any of you engage in this behavior?
Here is the hypothetical situation, based loosely on fact:
Man and woman go out to eat. Woman goes to the restroom and asks the man to order for her if the waiter comes around. Woman returns from bathroom, waiter has visited, but man did not order. The reason? Someone else got the waiter's attention and is taking a long time talking to the waiter. Woman waits patiently for several minutes and then waiter dissapears. Woman becomes annoyed, accuses man of not performing a simple task and says that it means more about his character-- that he is not assertive enough, etc. Man responds that he didn't know this was a test, and that its not a fair assessment. Woman gets the waiter's attention herself eventually but notes this behavior.
What do you think of this? Can people extrapolate deeper characteristics from simple examples of everyday interaction? Is it fair to do this? Do any of you engage in this behavior?
What an obnoxious woman!!!
I think your whole scenario says way more about her than it does about him. It also says something about the waiter...
I don't believe in "tests" but I do think that you should be able to make judgements about someone's character based on your interaction with them.
Here is the hypothetical situation, based loosely on fact:
Man and woman go out to eat. Woman goes to the restroom and asks the man to order for her if the waiter comes around. Woman returns from bathroom, waiter has visited, but man did not order. The reason? Someone else got the waiter's attention and is taking a long time talking to the waiter. Woman waits patiently for several minutes and then waiter dissapears. Woman becomes annoyed, accuses man of not performing a simple task and says that it means more about his character-- that he is not assertive enough, etc. Man responds that he didn't know this was a test, and that its not a fair assessment. Woman gets the waiter's attention herself eventually but notes this behavior.
What do you think of this? Can people extrapolate deeper characteristics from simple examples of everyday interaction? Is it fair to do this? Do any of you engage in this behavior?
The above you listed in your example is stupid and petty.
My "test" would be if he asked me to "chip" in for the meal on the first date. Let's just say, there would be no second.
Here is another situation, also based loosely on fact:
Man and woman meet, hang out for a month. Things start to get romantic after week two with some kissing and snuggling but nothing sexual until week four. Man breaks off relationship after week four, stating that he cannot take the relationship seriously because they were too intimate too quickly and it says something about the woman's character. Woman says that she had no idea they were going "too quickly" as it was the man who was the initiator in the intimate situation.
In this scenario, was the test valid? What do you think of this?
Women test men ALL THE TIME, from the day they meet. Most are oblivious to it, because they are blind.
Maybe women test you because you appear to be untrustworthy.
I'm not a tester, but I do notice certain things.
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