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My long distance girlfriend I recently found out has send a nude picture and has been having "cyber sex" via skype with one of my best friends. My girlfriend and I pretty serious, and we have big plans for the future that we talk about often. Two weeks after the first incident my best friend approached me and told me I need to rethink my situation with my girlfriend, saying he doesn't think she's serious about the relationship and only didn't want to be alone, not particularly be with me.
When I confronted my girlfriend about this, she said there is more to the story, and she brought my best friend over for a 3 way call via Skype. I asked my friend about this many times before he relucantly decided to join the call. Every time I asked him he claimed he had no idea what she was talking about and wrote her off as being crazy. Only when she came out and said what had happened did he admit to it as well. This is when she came forward with the information that they had been sexting via skype and she had sent him one nude image. They had done it 3 times, and she claims she felt guilty and had been trying to work up the courage to tell me for two weeks. There was nothing physical about it, since they live great distances apart, but it's cheating all the same.My girlfriend and I are deeply in love, I believe she loves me, and I know I love her.
Now, for the tricky part. We have been together for 10 months. 3 months into our relationship I did the same thing my girlfriend recently came out doing. This mistake was made with a random girl I had met via the internet. I remember apologizing profusely and telling her she should leave me, because I did not deserve her. Relucantly she chose to forgive me and move on. I considered that a turning point though, because from that moment on I realized how much I did love this girl and I began to care for her much more deeply than I ever had before.
What bothers me most was that this act of cheating came at what was one of the strongest points in our relationship, 10 months into the game when we are discussing the possibility of marriage in the near future, and it was with my best friend, someone I see on a daily basis.
We've both made mistakes now, part of me wonders how serious we are about actually being with each other. Makes me wonder if we are actually ready. I feel since she took me back the first time, I kind of owe it to her to accept her back after this. And although it was cheating, there was no actual kissing, no physical sex involved. For the record, my best friend and I are no longer on speaking terms, for the moment I've stayed on with my girlfriend but told her she is no longer to speak with him, which she has agreed to.
Any ideas or advice on what to do in this situation? All comments and criticism are appreciated, I'm just really confused as to what I should do.
If she is long distance, how does she even know your best friend and how did they come to exchange skype contact info? I also kinda wonder if you have ever met.
Assuming this is a real relationship, I say dump her immediately. It's one thing to have an indiscretion, but doing it with your best friend is a big F U to you. She is the type of woman who would bang your brother and say, "I dunno, it just happened."
If she is long distance, how does she even know your best friend and how did they come to exchange skype contact info?
She asks about my friends. She met him through FB and started chatting that way.
She claims she doesn't know why she did it, but felt bad even while doing it. She has confessed how incredibly sorry she is and that she doesn't know how she would carry on without me, and has begged me not to leave her. I still kind of feel obligated to keep her though, since I made the same exact mistake several months ago, except it wasn't with her best friend, just a random girl. Idk, I'm confused. Maybe long distance relationships are just too tough and I should find someone who's here and now.
Dude you have to dump her. She has no respect for you as a man whatsoever. There is no recovering from this especially since this happened early. The relationship is toast because she is not attracted to you and she has already banged some dude at work or from class.
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It does not sound like much of a best friend or girlfriend.
I would dump them BOTH...no liar is ever going to be of valule in your life.
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