Have you or a loved one been destroyed by a terrible life event?

[Idon'tdateyou]

Yes and if affected my life for years. When I was 24 I met a guy who seemed cool. However long story short he was a con artist and pimp. It was a whirlwind (to me)romance and he asked me to move in right away! I was thrilled knowing I found "the one" early on and he talked about marriage and a family. However as things moved along I realized it wasn't like I thought. I had a budding business and he claimed he had experience running a business so I made him a co parent. He proceeded to drain the savings and said he needed it for "business expenses". Then he claimed he had no money and could I help him with it so I started giving him money. Then eventually I found out he was a pimp and started asking me to go on "dates" with men. I refused and he locked me out of his apartment because I wasn't on the lease though I paid the rent. I managed to get some of my stuff back but other things he refused to give back or sold. Yes nice guy (sarcasm). I filed a police report and the police said they felt bad for me but wasn't much they could do without proof. I did have him on tape admitting he stole from me but it was more of a he said/she said situation. Right after this I met the sweetest guy in the world and we ended up breaking up because I wasn't ready to handle another relationship though we still talk. The con artist is now doing online dating and lying on his profile.

The last guy I dated was completely different because he got scammed. I first met him when I was 23 and he was 27 (and ironically warned me against the con artist)and I met him when I was going through a breakup and not ready to date. He was anxious to marry and be a father and when I wasn't ready we eventually lost contact. Years later we reconnected but in the meantime he met a woman online and got engaged without having met. He then moved out of state to be with her and she conned him. When I reconnected he told me he never wanted marriage.

[Missganda]

Yes, when my dad passed away. I was so hurt. That was the only time I cried. After that incident, any other pain is not that intense, even breakups are not that painful.

[D. Scott]

Had more then one major event. Still standing.

In reference to the term "destroyed" I feel that would be the point the person gives up on themselves completely and stays that way. I think many have gone through a period where they threw in the towel on life, Only to step back into the ring eventually.

[himain]

I would say never getting over the love of my life. I have never been fully open to another man since then. It's been 16 years..