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In the old days, when I was looking for relationships, I have to admit that I somewhat wanted to get attention. I saw pictures of friends and family with their respective partners, in romantic positions and I wanted to be in that position. That was around the late 90's when in school and the last decade. When I entered university in 2001 I imagined myself with a beautiful girl with me holding hands and all that stuff. (No sexual desire was anywhere to be found)
As I grew up and began to realize my fate, I learned that this could not be as good as it may seem, because to do something that should be intimate in front of everybody to get attention was, for me, not moral, at least not honest.
Currently I have my reserves on the issue of PDA. I cannot judge people that do it although for me long PDA like long kisses and almost-sexual postures in public may look cheesy, insecure and somewhat not right especially for kids to see.
Last november I was among a huge crowd of people watching the final results of the elections and in front of me there were two gays, one of them consistently caressing the back of his partner, and although it was not the first time seeing it, it reminded me of all the times seeing it in heterosexual couples, especially women to men. The other partner would not really respond the same way- the other gay did not caress his partner. Also, long time ago in a church, there was couple a girl and a boy and the girl was consistently caressing and cuddling her boyfriend and he would not do the same back with her. I typically ignore when a couple is having an affection moment when it is mutual but when I see some friction in one of the parts it makes me think if they really are being that "lovely" to each other. In some occasion when I see it the girl would look at me when caressing/cuddling her boyfriend. For me it is definitely looking for attention, "look we love each other"... perhaps I am wrong.
What it really is, it's that, " Hey! lookie me, I'm sexy! no matter where I am, or what's going on, I AM SEXY!"
If someone feels they have to prove it to someone, they most likely are NOT. Anyone can ACT that way. Actually being sexy is something that comes naturally.
Public displays of affection (except amongst the teeny-bopper crowd) have nothing to do with "hey look at me," and everything to do with two people who like each other wanting to be in physical contact with one another.
I wonder too, if some of those couples where only one is making the contact on the other, and it's not happening in a reciprocal fashion...if there is something possessive going on, or if it's some indication of the social dynamic in the relationship.
But then I like to analyze things just for the sake of giving myself something to think about...
My husband doesn't like to hold hands. Says it makes his hand sweaty and he just doesn't like to. Some guys do, and I used to enjoy it in the past with guys when I was a teenager. But I do think that over the top displays in random public locations are a bit disrespectful to others, regardless of what genders the people are doing it. Big difference between "aww" and "get a room!"
I wonder too, if some of those couples where only one is making the contact on the other, and it's not happening in a reciprocal fashion...if there is something possessive going on, or if it's some indication of the social dynamic in the relationship.
But then I like to analyze things just for the sake of giving myself something to think about...
My husband doesn't like to hold hands. Says it makes his hand sweaty and he just doesn't like to. Some guys do, and I used to enjoy it in the past with guys when I was a teenager. But I do think that over the top displays in random public locations are a bit disrespectful to others, regardless of what genders the people are doing it. Big difference between "aww" and "get a room!"
Exactly.
When I was younger during a big feast where there was a huge crowd and some bands singing and there was this couple who was kissing about maybe more than 2 minutes. Everybody around looking at them. Looks like a couple there needed a motel room fast.
In bars and other places where there is the effect of alcohol it may be different because people are not really aware of what they are doing when drunk.
What it really is, it's that, " Hey! lookie me, I'm sexy! no matter where I am, or what's going on, I AM SEXY!"
If someone feels they have to prove it to someone, they most likely are NOT. Anyone can ACT that way. Actually being sexy is something that comes naturally.
For me it is simple that if two people are giving this PDA there is no reason one of them look at me. Or anyone else.
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