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Old 12-13-2012, 06:18 PM
 
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Number 3 and 4 in your list of talking points contradict each other, don't you think?
I think the best way to reconcile those two is saying simply: Do the BEST with what you've got, and accept whatever you can't do anything about.

 
Old 12-13-2012, 06:19 PM
 
Location: San Francisco, CA
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I can add a couple of more

A. You are ANGRY and you are ANGRY at the world for all your real and perceived failures in life. Angry men are not appealing to women b/c they appear weak.

B. You are angry at all the previous women that you tried to date and you openly discuss this with your potential dates. She was either a b...ch, s..t, etc etc

B. You complain a lot

there is lots more to come
 
Old 12-13-2012, 06:24 PM
 
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Below is a list I saw on another website and found it interesting and accurate for the most part. I've noticed there's alot of dudes on here moaning and groaning about not getting women, and while I agree dating is very difficult, there's a good chance one or more of the reasons below is why you're not having success.

1. You are too weak
That’s right; the first and most important reason is your weakness. You do not have to balls needed for sex to happen. You fear rejection and this stops you from interacting with hundreds of potential chicks. You have problems grasping the true reality of the situation – the more chicks you approach; the more you get rejected BUT ALSO the more you get laid.
2. You aren’t proud of yourself
You’ve somehow managed to come to the conclusion that you’re not the guy women want. Instead of working towards gaining some self respect you are OK with this terrible existence. If you truly feel this way about yourself, how do you expect any woman on this planet to view you differently?
3. You’ve got a massive complex
You strongly believe that your crooked teeth or bad skin is the reason you haven’t gotten laid in 6 months. Unless you’ve been on the news because that complex makes you look like a monstrosity, you fail to realize that most people really don’t care.
4. You don’t care about the way you look
You believe that a man is not a woman and thus he should not spend some time in front of the mirror to “fix himself up”. You think guys that do their hair and dress well are gay but yet, you seem to miss the fact that they are always leaving the venue with a girl.
5. You don’t care about how fit you are
You somehow know women don’t really care about your physical appearance but again are oblivious to the fact that guys, that work out and look fit, are leaving the venue with a girl much more often that you are.
6. You’re a quitter
The first time you get rejected in a night, is also the last time because you’ve already given up. Instead of trying and trying (until you succeed) you quickly become #2 (and never succeed).
7. You say no to alcohol
You haven’t yet realized that a MODERATE USE OF alcohol is incredibly useful in social situations. Even the most socially awkward dude can lose his inhibitions and interact with women. You say no to alcohol and no to chicks that drink because you’ve got principles – while you may have that, you certainly don’t have any women in your bed.
8. All the girls you meet are from your tiny social circle
You fail to notice that the best way to meet women is to actually go out into the world and approach them. Every social circle will have a VERY limited number of potential prospects. Do you want your banged chick number to be a little over 2?
9. You are desperate for female attention
You rarely get the chance to be in the presence of a woman and when you do, you do the dumbest s**t possible. You lean in when you’re talking to her, you text/call her 10x time more often than she does, you freak out when she doesn’t immediately text/calls you back, you ask for permission, you show these sings of neediness, you lose her…
10. You’re unable to connect with women
Although you’ve got a decent age, you’ve failed to realize that the best way to connect with women is emotionally. Instead of sharing an interesting story and talking about how it made you feel, you try to use reason and logic, whilst explaining how the country got in or out of the recession. You feel frustrated that you can’t understand women, or that they just don’t get you.
11. You don’t know how to get a girl interested in you
Because you don’t understand women you find it incredibly hard to get them interested in you. You don’t know how to make them want you and this becomes increasingly difficult as time progresses. This is probably because…
12. You’re not interesting
If all you do is go to work/school, come home, and sleep. Then, it’s probably evident that all you talk about is the only thing you do (work/school). You’ve failed to realize that interesting people do interesting things thus having a lot of interesting s**t to talk about. There are no REAL excuses for not being interesting, or at least appearing to be.
13. You do not understand humor
You think that dropping random jokes in randomly inappropriate situations is the way to make people laugh. You even misinterpret the importance of making a girl laugh, as in, “Why would she need to have any fun when she’s with me?”. You don’t understand that good humor is spontaneous and situational, it’s hardly ever prepared at home and you also miss the fact that laughter always makes a girl feel good.
14. You take girls to dinner
You haven’t yet realized that dinner dates are never a step closer to getting what you want. Apart from the fact that this “dating scenario” creates a lot of unnecessary pressure on both parties it also stops you from making some real moves, such as touching as she’s on the other side of the table. Unfortunately you’ve again failed to realize the importance of alcohol. Instead of helping this social awkwardness “date scenario” with something that loosens a person’s inhibitions, you’ve decided to counter the effects of booze by throwing some food over it. Don’t you think it would be better to take girls out for drinks?
15. You’re cheap
You don’t take girls to dinner, not because you understand that taking girls to dinner decreases the chances of getting physical and scoring but, because you’re a cheap bastard! I agree that it’s never a good idea to buy girls drinks, BUT ONLY when they shamelessly request it. In every other scenario you just come out as a cheap.
16. You don’t have game
You don’t understand why the above examples are stopping you from meeting and succeeding with beautiful women. Having game is not just about understanding women, it’s about understanding the society you live in and fitting well into those social norms. You need to adapt yourself to what society desires (fashion, music, interests, technology etc), otherwise you’re just going to be the weird guy that doesn’t fit in.
I’m not saying to become mister NORMAL, because it’s always much better to have some outstanding and unique interests. However, not having any friends, not having any common interests with people, not listening to the music people listen to – just tells everyone, male and female, that you do not fit in with normal society. Think about it, if you have nothing to talk about because nothing interests you, you are doomed to a life of loneliness. Finally, not being into Justin Beiber doesn’t mean you don’t fit in, because there are just as many people that feel the same way. However being into and only into “The Spit” (some freaky howling bad rock band from the 80’s that only had 1 album), is.

The one that I agree with most is 16. What is it with guys today that are absolute tool chests. You know who you are if you do one or more of the following; play video games, (not sports games but sh*t like World of Warcraft and Halo), for more than an hour a day, you buy World of Warcraft strategy guides, a meal to you is a Hot Pocket or some other microwaved ready in seconds food, you listen to a type of music that's so wierd it doesn't even have a genre, (like rock, rap, r&b, metal, country), you listen to techno music and you actually buy it, you have exotic pets like dragons and iguanas, you collect star wars merchandise, your dvd collection consists of mostly star wars, star trek and other movies that involve aliens, you still wear stone washed and black tight fitting jeans, (they fit tight around your ass and show your ankles), you still dress-up for halloween, the ornaments on your christmas tree are mostly star wars, (believe it or not I saw them for sale when I was out shopping), you still sport a mullet, you get tattoos that no one other than you knows what the hell they are, (probably because they're sci-fi related), you don't care about what you drive as long as the stereo will play your techno music, when you do talk to a girl and she says I really like that new song by Alicia Keys you ask; "who's that," if you're out at a bar you think girls will start talking to you if you play George Michael on the jukebox, most of your check goes to video games, dvds, and microwave food, but nothing goes into a 401K

Just thought I'd be nice this Christmas season and help you guys out that are always complaing about girls not talking to you
Either that or kill themselves this Christmas season.
 
Old 12-13-2012, 06:26 PM
 
Location: Lower east side of Toronto
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No money no funny. You forgot that no matter how minor the hunting expedition for a woman is...all expeditions take a bit of financing. That is part of it..the other part is that most males have a history...most are still hung up on their last failed love and the wind has been taken out of their sails.

From a personal view...I have not lived with my wife for about 4 years- I have a warm and loving relationship with her but it's not like we are a couple anymore...Getting your heart fully into something or someone else means you have to break ties with the past. The past might still have benefits..giving them up is not easy.

The only way to break the spell of one woman is with another woman..sometimes the old spell is powerful.
 
Old 12-13-2012, 06:27 PM
 
Location: H-Tine, Texas
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Originally Posted by supertrucker212 View Post
Below is a list I saw on another website and found it interesting and accurate for the most part. I've noticed there's alot of dudes on here moaning and groaning about not getting women, and while I agree dating is very difficult, there's a good chance one or more of the reasons below is why you're not having success.

7. You say no to alcohol
You haven’t yet realized that a MODERATE USE OF alcohol is incredibly useful in social situations. Even the most socially awkward dude can lose his inhibitions and interact with women. You say no to alcohol and no to chicks that drink because you’ve got principles – while you may have that, you certainly don’t have any women in your bed.
I don't drink. Never have, never will. If this keeps me from getting women , then oh well.

Principles > women.
 
Old 12-13-2012, 06:31 PM
 
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Booths are a no go, same with two-seater tables. Even if the two seater table or booth is small enough, you still have to reach across to gently touch shoulders/arms and thats awkward reaching over food, etc.

If you take her out to eat, DO YOUR HOMEWORK, and look for a place that would be a good setting for sparking a little romance.
Booths can be good... I prefer booths on dates as they are much more cozy and private.
 
Old 12-13-2012, 06:39 PM
 
Location: Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
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There is only one reason why guys don't get women, and most of the time it's due to lack of respect for themselves. That's reflected in your attitude, and makes a big difference in getting the right type of woman. There are women who will deal with men who don't respect themselves, but they are only with men to use and manipulate them.

You don't need 14 suggestions as to why guys can't get women. Really it comes down to a source issue with self-respect. I think when you can be who you are, be confident in who you are and what you stand on, and never waiver, you can have a woman or get her respect. Getting women isn't complicated. You don't need to be super stud, or Mr. 6 pack (God knows I'm not), but you can find women who'll respect you.

I'm not a huge fan of dating until AFTER you get into a relationship. I do agree that dating is a game, there is a ton of pressure, and it normally makes things worse in getting to know someone, not better. I would better suggest a movie, or a place you can go and talk and get to know each other. Time together is better than restaraunts and big dates. Dates are more about trying to impress each other, than trying to get to know one another. It's a big game, which is why the dating world really sucks now.
 
Old 12-13-2012, 06:46 PM
 
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There is only one reason why guys don't get women, and most of the time it's due to lack of respect for themselves. That's reflected in your attitude, and makes a big difference in getting the right type of woman. There are women who will deal with men who don't respect themselves, but they are only with men to use and manipulate them.

You don't need 14 suggestions as to why guys can't get women. Really it comes down to a source issue with self-respect. I think when you can be who you are, be confident in who you are and what you stand on, and never waiver, you can have a woman or get her respect. Getting women isn't complicated. You don't need to be super stud, or Mr. 6 pack (God knows I'm not), but you can find women who'll respect you.

I'm not a huge fan of dating until AFTER you get into a relationship. I do agree that dating is a game, there is a ton of pressure, and it normally makes things worse in getting to know someone, not better. I would better suggest a movie, or a place you can go and talk and get to know each other. Time together is better than restaraunts and big dates. Dates are more about trying to impress each other, than trying to get to know one another. It's a big game, which is why the dating world really sucks now.
This man. People make it harder than it needs to be. But hell dude it's like I've said. I've seen guys with nothing going for them find partners. Why do you think all these deadbeat dads and "baby mamas" come from. And number 16, that whole fit-in crap, what is this high school. All that needs to be done is get out the house and meet people.
 
Old 12-13-2012, 07:00 PM
 
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Geez, I'm tired of these online lists of what a man is "supposed" to be to PLEASE a woman! And every list always paints the guy as some kind of yuppie type.
 
Old 12-13-2012, 07:03 PM
 
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Geez, I'm tired of these online lists of what a man is "supposed" to be to PLEASE a woman! And every list always paints the guy as some kind of yuppie type.
Not a yuppie, more like a complete loser who should buy a gun and blow his brains out, because he sucks so hard at life.
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