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Everyone makes mistakes. The point is to learn from them. If you really want to improve and understand others better, very often you have to try to look at the situation from a different angle, try to see it how the other person sees it.
...OK, so how do you actually know if you are just trying to understand the things better or if you are being brainwashed and letting others (let's take for example an emotionally abusive boyfriend) manipulate you, your feelings, your thoughts?
That's something that isn't clear to me. How to tell if I'm just trying to see something in a different light or if I'm being manipulated so much that I can't see the bad things for what they really are any longer and trying to find excuses for him acting nasty towards me etc?
You have a tiny, quiet voice in the back of your brain that is yelling the truth at you.
Try to put all the drama away, quiet your emotions, physically get away if you can, and get calm enough to listen to this voice. It's called your instinct, you have it, its working very well too, you just need to validate it.
It's screaming at you right now, I can tell by this sentence -
I'm being manipulated so much that I can't see the bad things for what they really are any longer and trying to find excuses for him acting nasty towards me
It is telling you exactly what you need to know, in the form of "doubts". Doubts come from your instinctive side. This is your subconcious speaking.
I have always followed my instinct in life, and I have rarely been wrong.
The only times I've screwed up is when I've ignored my gut, given someone "the benefit of the doubt", or done something I deep down don't want to do, to please someone else.
I have found that the road to Hell is paved with good intentions.
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