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Wait, wait... because he finds himself with women who ask him for money, repeatedly... that means its HIS fault for picking those type of women?
That, doesn't make sense.
How is he supposed to know if someone is going to be the type of person to borrow money if he's just dating her? You are also assuming he's exclusively dating those with "style" over substance rather than just those he's attracted to. Also from the sounds of it, they have kids. Doesn't it strike you the least bit odd single parents are dating with intention of seeking money?
Try putting yourself in his shoes and ponder if guys were to do the same thing to you, would you blame the guys or blame yourself for only going for those kind of guys?
Wait, wait... because he finds himself with women who ask him for money, repeatedly... that means its HIS fault for picking those type of women?
That, doesn't make sense.
How is he supposed to know if someone is going to be the type of person to borrow money if he's just dating her? You are also assuming he's exclusively dating those with "style" over substance rather than just those he's attracted to. Also from the sounds of it, they have kids. Doesn't it strike you the least bit odd single parents are dating with intention of seeking money?
Try putting yourself in his shoes and ponder if guys were to do the same thing to you, would you blame the guys or blame yourself for only going for those kind of guys?
This guy is obviously going for the exact same type of woman over and over again expecting different results. Of course he knows what he is getting himself into with these types of women. That's what he is attracted to and that is exactly what he attracts.
He is obviously not going for college educated women, career minded women, women of integrity....you know, women that have their own jobs, cars, apartment/homes, money, etc. He doesn't WANT a financially independent woman. He WANTS a floosy who looks like a hooker. So guess what...floosies ask men for money. And they expect men to pay their rent, pay for their mani/pedi or buy their cigarettes, etc.
Successful self-sufficient women are usually much choosier when it comes to dating and have high standards for choosing a life partner. They are also usually older, have less time for the typical dating scene, and may or may not put as much effort into appearances. By contrast, when you think of the typical golddigger, they're usually young, quite attractive, not particularly intelligent or driven, and tend to go out a lot and be 'on the scene'. If they're also young single mothers, I would dare to assume they don't have the best background and upbringing either. Often they won't have very high standards for a man as long as he has money and can provide for their needs.
Hence, it is logical to assume that if the OP is meeting young, pretty, not particularly career-minded girls in bars and clubs, and doesn't have too much to offer himself aside from money, he shouldn't be too surprised that that's all they want from him. I doubt that if, say, a successful woman that he met at a work event was interested in him, that she'd be asking him for money the next day.
Edited: ^callipoppy, we posted that at the same time!
Wait, wait... because he finds himself with women who ask him for money, repeatedly... that means its HIS fault for picking those type of women?
That, doesn't make sense.
How is he supposed to know if someone is going to be the type of person to borrow money if he's just dating her? You are also assuming he's exclusively dating those with "style" over substance rather than just those he's attracted to. Also from the sounds of it, they have kids. Doesn't it strike you the least bit odd single parents are dating with intention of seeking money?
Try putting yourself in his shoes and ponder if guys were to do the same thing to you, would you blame the guys or blame yourself for only going for those kind of guys?
Easy, if she expects him to pay (aka doesn't even offer) on the first date, she'll probably always expect him to pay and wont have trouble asking for money later on down the road.
It's a simple indicator that can be noticed as early as date 1.
When you first meet a person, you don't know what you're getting. No one does. We naturally go after people that we are attracted to physically.
I like to think I have a good eye for what's attractive. What seems to be happening as of late is I'll meet when that are "packaged" well but they don't have anything. When I say anything, that's what I mean.
They don't have--
Car
Their own place
Child support
Job
But they do have--
the current "styles"
empty pockets
Style over substance
I have had 3 women that I met( I no longer talk to any of them) ask me for money. My response is always: "Did you ask the childs father for child support, if not, don't ask me for it?"
OH BOY---that reply gets them mad as hell!!!
These women are all about style over substance. I cannot for the life of me figure out why these women ask men for money. I guess when you're raised to work and be responsible for you life, the thougyt of me asking women for money is not in my DNA.
Did you have sex with any of these women who are asking you for all this "money"?
Oh Yes...it's his fault alright, and it makes perfect sense...It's pretty easy to tell if someones the type whose looking for money...not hard at all.
For those who are good listeners, And have some life experience they can usually tell after a few conversations, The other persons circumstances etc. However, Some people looking for the $$ may be very good at disguising it until later in the relationship.
Things like this shaped my saying of how dating sucks. It does.
Yep, as findly pointed out, you're the common denominator. And what it really does come down to is that you are SEEKING style over substance.
I don't know where you're meeting these women, but if it's in a bar, talk with them for a good long time before you ask them out. If it's online, read the profile before you look at the pictures.
Yeah, we all go for what attracts us, but if you're solely going after the women you personally rank as 10s and overlooking the 5-9s, that would likely be your problem.
For that matter, what are you bringing to the table?
THANK YOU!!!
Stop trying to date women out of your league physically and go with the threes and twos that you KNOW you should be with.
Successful self-sufficient women are usually much choosier when it comes to dating and have high standards for choosing a life partner. They are also usually older, have less time for the typical dating scene, and may or may not put as much effort into appearances. By contrast, when you think of the typical golddigger, they're usually young, quite attractive, not particularly intelligent or driven, and tend to go out a lot and be 'on the scene'. If they're also young single mothers, I would dare to assume they don't have the best background and upbringing either. Often they won't have very high standards for a man as long as he has money and can provide for their needs.
Hence, it is logical to assume that if the OP is meeting young, pretty, not particularly career-minded girls in bars and clubs, and doesn't have too much to offer himself aside from money, he shouldn't be too surprised that that's all they want from him. I doubt that if, say, a successful woman that he met at a work event was interested in him, that she'd be asking him for money the next day.
Gold diggers come in all ages, and both genders.
I don't understand why guys think bars and clubs are THE place to meet women, the one-and-only place (IRL). Also, I wonder if single moms would be going to bars and clubs. I can't imagine how or where the OP is meeting these women. Maybe he's had a streak of bad luck at the grocery store...? lol
We do know he's going for a certain physical type, though. That seems to be his problem. He needs to branch out.
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