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Thanks guys. I'm 32 and a man. He is 29. We have been friends since we broke up four years ago (well 3 1/2 or so years ago). Throughout that time in spite of each of us occasionally dating or even living with someone else we've always maintained a close connection. Shortly after he left he called me saying it was the worst mistake he had ever made (not moving up there, but leaving me). He's visited a few times over the years "testing the waters" but I'm one to hold onto a grudge for while.
As far as him moving here, he knows he can't move in with me. I have a roommate (whom I love dearly and wouldn't dream of getting rid of for at least another year) and I told him explicitly when the subject of us together again came up that if we find ourselves in the same area of the country again we'd be starting from now. Dating, living seperatly for at least a year before I'd consider living with him again.
You are right. I have big heart and it clouds my judgement in alot of cases (friends and relatives as well as relationships) and I have to be careful. I am being careful, not expecting anything. I'm just hopeful and willing to give this another shot, but on my terms.
Thanks guys. I'm 32 and a man. He is 29. We have been friends since we broke up four years ago (well 3 1/2 or so years ago). Throughout that time in spite of each of us occasionally dating or even living with someone else we've always maintained a close connection. Shortly after he left he called me saying it was the worst mistake he had ever made (not moving up there, but leaving me). He's visited a few times over the years "testing the waters" but I'm one to hold onto a grudge for while.
As far as him moving here, he knows he can't move in with me. I have a roommate (whom I love dearly and wouldn't dream of getting rid of for at least another year) and I told him explicitly when the subject of us together again came up that if we find ourselves in the same area of the country again we'd be starting from now. Dating, living seperatly for at least a year before I'd consider living with him again.
You are right. I have big heart and it clouds my judgement in alot of cases (friends and relatives as well as relationships) and I have to be careful. I am being careful, not expecting anything. I'm just hopeful and willing to give this another shot, but on my terms.
Cheers!
Hey, good for you...sound like you're on the right track, and not going to act impulsively. And it sounds like the timing for you both could be right this time...and you know what they say about timing... BEST OF LUCK!!
I think it's great when a person finds love but take it slowly at first. Keep us updated.
Its one thing when two people fall in love (theres that 'l' word again). But the feelings need to be mutual, and if only one sees it as love and the other makes it clear that they are not in love, but rather a close friendship or just companionship, then it can become a problem. Are you really sure its working both ways? If you are, its a great thing! Nothing wrong with it, but again, it needs to be two-sided.
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I'm 32 and a man. He is 29. We have been friends since we broke up four years ago (well 3 1/2 or so years ago). Throughout that time in spite of each of us occasionally dating or even living with someone else we've always maintained a close connection. Shortly after he left he called me saying it was the worst mistake he had ever made (not moving up there, but leaving me). He's visited a few times over the years "testing the waters" but I'm one to hold onto a grudge for while.
BEST OF LUCK!! 
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