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I am sure you all my remember my thread, (//www.city-data.com/forum/relat...p-explain.html) and how low I was feeling. This was after a guy I really liked led me on and told me that I was just a "drinking buddy".
So yesterday after two weeks of being lonely and wondering what was wrong with me, a girlfriend asked me to go out to the bar for her sisters birthday. I agreed thinking that going out may be a great idea.
Oh my goodness! Maybe it was "make her feel better" day but so many people (including women ) told me I was stunning and beautiful. My friend told me her guy friend (that she has known for 3 years and is well situated) who is very picky about women already wanted to take me out on a date! He said I was one of the most beautiful women he has ever seen!
She called me this morning asking if she can give me his number! I said yes!!
Another guy bought me a drink/food and was trying to hold my hand all night and wanted my number. I was in high heels and he offered to hold me and my hand as we walked across the street. I was asked to be someones New Years Kiss.
Might be time to reactivate Facebook and get back out there. I may have been his "drinking buddy" trash he discarded but one day I hope I will be someones treasure. Gotta get back out there with my renewed self esteem!!!!
That is awesome! A night with friends can really help lift your mood.
I want to link to something i really want you to read. I hope you take it in the spirit it is offered, from a place of caring. I am not trying to crush your mood. I went through many times like you have described and want to share the best advice I ever got.
The link below contains a short decription, with examples, of the "reflected sense of self."
Your post worries me because in it I recognize the language of someone who may have a reflected sense of self. It means that your self-esteem is reflected off of the feelings/reactions of others. I am very glad you feel like your self-esteem is back. But please remember that SELF-esteem comes from YOUR SELF. It does not come from a guy (or a girl) calling you pretty etc.
Pay particular attention to the Normal Marital Sadism section. It applies to any relationship, not just marriage. It sounds like a lot of the feelings you were having for "drinking buddy," which, while normal, are not healthy.
I am glad you are feeling better. Remember that YOU decide that you're awesome, not some guy.
Just saw something on Facebook from the Dalai Lama today: Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.
I'll add that when your esteem comes from yourself, no one can take it away. I'm glad you're feeling better about yourself, but--and this is not to be a curmudgeon--if others can bring you so high, they can also bring you low. Honestly? What other people think shouldn't affect how you feel about yourself to such extremes, so based on this post alone, I'd focus on finding confidence from within, first, before getting back out there. Just a thought.
Just saw something on Facebook from the Dalai Lama today: Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.
I'll add that when your esteem comes from yourself, no one can take it away. I'm glad you're feeling better about yourself, but--and this is not to be a curmudgeon--if others can bring you so high, they can also bring you low. Honestly? What other people think shouldn't affect how you feel about yourself to such extremes, so based on this post alone, I'd focus on finding confidence from within, first, before getting back out there. Just a thought.
Pfft, get that mess of wisdom out of here!
OP, don'tcha know that every woman that posts here is a 300 pound gorilla? At least that's what I've been told.
Well, if it doesn't work out for ya, I could use a drinking buddy!
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) told me I was stunning and beautiful. My friend told me her guy friend (that she has known for 3 years and is well situated) who is very picky about women already wanted to take me out on a date! He said I was one of the most beautiful women he has ever seen! 
I may have been his "drinking buddy" trash he discarded but one day I hope I will be someones treasure. Gotta get back out there with my renewed self esteem!!!!
