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My parents divorced about 8 years ago when I was 21. It was a hard time for the family and happened very suddently to all but those who were involved. I ask this question because circumstances have evolved and both my parents are finding themselves alone with no one to spend time with, and they both could benefit from sharing a mortgage payment, rather than they both having to pay for their own mortgage. It's a real stain on them financially. Also, my mom can't take care of a home all by herself by fixing things and doing yard work, where my dad could use someone to cook for him to make him healthier and clean the place up a little (which my mom is very good at keeping a nice home).
My mom left my dad one day by calling him when he was at work and telling him she packed her bags and leaving him. This hurt my dad pretty badly. My mom isn't very good at communicating when something bothers her, and my dad can be a really big jerk sometimes. They never did therapy, they really could both benefit from it and I try to encourage them to go.
My mom left my dad for another guy she had worked with for 10 years. Well my mom is in her 50's and this guy was 10 years younger than her. After 8 years of dating the guy refuses to get married and after enough pressure from my mom he's bailed. My dad is bitter and angry, he had a girlfriend for a while that was 10 years younger than him and still had young kids, she pressured him for marriage which he had no interest in and she bailed after giving him an ultimatum. Well she had horrible eating habits and had her stomach stapled on two separate occasions from being fat > skinny> fat > skinny > fat. My dad just went from in great shape to completely overweight and fat.
I'm not suggesting to them to REMARRY, but jeez. They're both alone, both could use the help of a partner in respective areas, and it makes sense for them to at least try to revisit the idea of spending time together and living together again. We spend holidays together with both of them at the same time and they get along fine.
My parents divorced about 8 years ago when I was 21. It was a hard time for the family and happened very suddently to all but those who were involved. I ask this question because circumstances have evolved and both my parents are finding themselves alone with no one to spend time with, and they both could benefit from sharing a mortgage payment, rather than they both having to pay for their own mortgage. It's a real stain on them financially. Also, my mom can't take care of a home all by herself by fixing things and doing yard work, where my dad could use someone to cook for him to make him healthier and clean the place up a little (which my mom is very good at keeping a nice home).
My mom left my dad one day by calling him when he was at work and telling him she packed her bags and leaving him. This hurt my dad pretty badly. My mom isn't very good at communicating when something bothers her, and my dad can be a really big jerk sometimes. They never did therapy, they really could both benefit from it and I try to encourage them to go.
My mom left my dad for another guy she had worked with for 10 years. Well my mom is in her 50's and this guy was 10 years younger than her. After 8 years of dating the guy refuses to get married and after enough pressure from my mom he's bailed. My dad is bitter and angry, he had a girlfriend for a while that was 10 years younger than him and still had young kids, she pressured him for marriage which he had no interest in and she bailed after giving him an ultimatum. Well she had horrible eating habits and had her stomach stapled on two separate occasions from being fat > skinny> fat > skinny > fat. My dad just went from in great shape to completely overweight and fat.
I'm not suggesting to them to REMARRY, but jeez. They're both alone, both could use the help of a partner in respective areas, and it makes sense for them to at least try to revisit the idea of spending time together and living together again. We spend holidays together with both of them at the same time and they get along fine.
How do I suggest this to my parents, if at all?
I suppose you could say it jokingly and see how they react, but I'm guessing if they wanted to get back together, they'd do it on their own without you suggesting it.
I suppose you could say it jokingly and see how they react, but I'm guessing if they wanted to get back together, they'd do it on their own without you suggesting it.
If you knew my parents, you would understand they're both too stubborn to make that happen themselves. It probably will never happen, but I just with I could help them both somehow.
You don't. They shouldn't have got together in the first place. Divorce happened. Only very stupid people would do the same mistake twice. They have learned marriages don't work.
I think you leave this one alone. My guess is too much water has gone under that bridge for it to work. Stranger things have happened though, but I think it would have to be a realization that they come to on their own.
My parents divorced about 8 years ago when I was 21. It was a hard time for the family and happened very suddently to all but those who were involved. I ask this question because circumstances have evolved and both my parents are finding themselves alone with no one to spend time with, and they both could benefit from sharing a mortgage payment, rather than they both having to pay for their own mortgage. It's a real stain on them financially. Also, my mom can't take care of a home all by herself by fixing things and doing yard work, where my dad could use someone to cook for him to make him healthier and clean the place up a little (which my mom is very good at keeping a nice home).
My mom left my dad one day by calling him when he was at work and telling him she packed her bags and leaving him. This hurt my dad pretty badly. My mom isn't very good at communicating when something bothers her, and my dad can be a really big jerk sometimes. They never did therapy, they really could both benefit from it and I try to encourage them to go.
My mom left my dad for another guy she had worked with for 10 years. Well my mom is in her 50's and this guy was 10 years younger than her. After 8 years of dating the guy refuses to get married and after enough pressure from my mom he's bailed. My dad is bitter and angry, he had a girlfriend for a while that was 10 years younger than him and still had young kids, she pressured him for marriage which he had no interest in and she bailed after giving him an ultimatum. Well she had horrible eating habits and had her stomach stapled on two separate occasions from being fat > skinny> fat > skinny > fat. My dad just went from in great shape to completely overweight and fat.
I'm not suggesting to them to REMARRY, but jeez. They're both alone, both could use the help of a partner in respective areas, and it makes sense for them to at least try to revisit the idea of spending time together and living together again. We spend holidays together with both of them at the same time and they get along fine.
How do I suggest this to my parents, if at all?
I think you should stay out of it. I know you love them both but this isn't your place. They are only in their 50's not elderly folk. They can take care of their own affairs I'm sure.
If you knew my parents, you would understand they're both too stubborn to make that happen themselves. It probably will never happen, but I just with I could help them both somehow.
Maybe they'll find new partners. It sounds like you think they won't so they might as well just settle for being roommates. I understand though. My parents really get on each other's nerves but as they're getting older, they probably realize that it's better to have an annoying partner that can help them out than to be alone. They've never had any really serious relationship issues though.
You don't. They shouldn't have got together in the first place. Divorce happened. Only very stupid people would do the same mistake twice. They have learned marriages don't work.
If you knew my parents, you would understand they're both too stubborn to make that happen themselves. It probably will never happen, but I just with I could help them both somehow.
Your mom's a CHEATER. You know it, your dad knows it, and your mom's ex-lover/"co-worker" knows it. Unless your mom is begging your dad to forgive him, your dad should not take that cheater back.
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