How long does it take you to like someone? (dating, long-term, woman)
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I like most people just fine as a person, but knowing if I want to date them seems like I have to know them for some time before I feel that way. Maybe I'm just not a big dater, but it takes me at least two months to decide whether I want someone around or not, and of course by then, they've moved on. I wouldn't say I'm being picky, I just don't want to pretend to be into somebody when I'm not at the time. That's why I don't understand the 5 date rule or whatever.
THe 5 date rule is fiction and a joke. You can take all the time in the world deciding if you like someone or not, because you are likely a young, attractive woman, and you have plenty of options.
Generally the purpose of dating someone is to spend time with them and get to know them. You do that while dating, not before (unless they are some acquaintance or something like that, but often they are not).
Going on a few dates is not a commitment to be in any sort of relationships. You don't have to pretend to be into them either. If you want to know more about someone, go on a date or two. If you like them, keep going. If not, don't.
I cannot think of too many people that are going to, well, do whatever you do in place of dating for months while waiting for you to decide if you want to go on a date.
This. I thought it was the three-date rule, anyway? Either way, it's dumb. There is no "rule." Some people are "all-in" when they first meet, and others take months or longer.
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Originally Posted by Checkered24
Going on a few dates is not a commitment to be in any sort of relationships.
When I used online dating, I liked to communicate a while (a week or so) on meaningful topics to see if we had compatible views, interests and objectives. If it seemed that we did, it was worth meeting to see if there was also attraction and chemistry in person. I could usually tell right away on meeting if there was any chance it could work, and if so, would see them again. After a few dates, I'd be pretty sure, but I also firmly believe that you can't truly know if someone will work long-term until a minimum of 6 months together, and more like a year in most cases.
In the early stages, you have to make a leap of faith based on what you do know and your intuition - failing to make that leap when it seems justified will cost you some good opportunities. Time will tell if you were right. And of course, you can always end it at any time later.
Two dates. Usually by then I know if I like them enough to keep dating them.
Phone calls and texts/emails dont count. Must be face to face meetings. If the first 1-3 dates are more than 7 days apart, I will most likely lose interest no matter what though. All this applies to people met online or people I just met.
Liking an existing friend is different. Having already known them for a while, it is possible to already like them without dating at all.
It takes you 2 months to determine if you like someone ? Are you serial dating ? If it takes you that long to figure out if you like someone, it means you don't like them. Im not saying 2 months demands exclusivity, but if you dont know you like them after one month (post first date) unless extreme circumstances arise, then move on. Serial dating complicates things too much IME. I am an avid anti-serial dating though. Other people favor it. to each their own.
I follow what he's saying for everyone that's commenting like " I don't get it". Okay, so he admires someone with a sense of humor or something over the physical characteristics of the average above look girl. When I read this i found out. 1) He's not shallow. 2) He must be a decently nice guy. 3) He doesn't really understand when to take the chance.
When you finally meet one girl that gives you a glare that you stare at for too long and get hit by a bus... Well that my friend is the girl that you might want. On the other hand, I'm shallow and that's what I'd go for. Usually luck for me is. She's taken and i'm not the huge scumbag that says.... "She didn't say, happily taken".
I like most people just fine as a person, but knowing if I want to date them seems like I have to know them for some time before I feel that way. Maybe I'm just not a big dater, but it takes me at least two months to decide whether I want someone around or not, and of course by then, they've moved on. I wouldn't say I'm being picky, I just don't want to pretend to be into somebody when I'm not at the time. That's why I don't understand the 5 date rule or whatever.
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