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Of course, as I understand it, genuine love is concern for another person beyond the boundaries of your own ego. You can love someone for decades and they can be unaware of it. Some say that some people can be in love and not be aware of it, themselves. Too deep for me.
I could be mistaken, but I do think this person cares for me, but not in the way I want.
I'm in my early 60's, single, and the person in my life with whom I have the most in common, who is a friend, a protege and has no idea that I have this crush on them. And yet they are so kind to me, and say such sweet things to and about me. I am making myself unhappy, thinking about them and I need to stop, but I see them regularly, text and Facebook. This is a really lovely person. I'm being ridiculous.
Awww this is so cute. I don't know what to tell you though. I've had a crush like that before.
What you're afraid of is rejection because it feels like it's not "right" yet you can't ignore your strong attraction.
Awww this is so cute. I don't know what to tell you though. I've had a crush like that before.
What you're afraid of is rejection because it feels like it's not "right" yet you can't ignore your strong attraction.
Very sweet response to my post. You nailed it. I'm not so much afraid of rejection as of losing a professional relationship, or hurting or embarrassing anyone.
Very sweet response to my post. You nailed it. I'm not so much afraid of rejection as of losing a professional relationship, or hurting or embarrassing anyone.
Some sort of lesbian deal? Not that it matters, a person in "their" late 30s is old enough to make a decision.
My attraction's not based on sexuality in that way. It's too difficult to explain briefly. But no, this is an Hispanic male. He's never married and may be gay for all I know.
My attraction's not based on sexuality in that way. It's too difficult to explain briefly. But no, this is an Hispanic male. He's never married and may be gay for all I know.
Just out of curiosity, what's up with playing the pronoun game? Did I mistake you for being a female?
I've come to the conclusion that he is not interested in me, but just sort of exploting me --not financially or sexually--but for any professional knowledge he can glean from me. I had this exact same problem with this person before when I worked with them; I became infatuated and he had no clue I felt that way.
I'm teaching him today and I think after that I'm going to email him and tell him it's his last lesson, and I think I'm going to haveto tellhim why:
>>I'm sorry, but today was our last lesson. The mistake that I made with you last time you studied with me, I made again. And that is, when you constantly stay in touch with some single, unmarried woman it is very possible that SHE WILL THINK YOU LIKE HER, AS A WOMAN. But you don't feel that way about me; you're just trying to exploit me, not financially or sexually, but for whatever music knowledge you can glean from me. It's upsetting, depressing. I thought I could handle it this time, but I can't. All I do is think about you. And I know you don't feel the same way. I wish you the best.
It just all seems to pointless and embarrassing and I feel so sad. And, on my side, my feelings are probably, at least in large part, a function of having survived cancer and being healthy again. I want to re-enter the world and have some sort of personal life. But not with this person.
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