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I'm just curious..I see it as more of a woman's holiday where the man gets the chance to be super romantic ..but I've never thought about what it is us women do for men besides well, the obvious.
Good question. When I have worked in the USA around February 14 I normally see women being showered with floweres delivered to their desk, stuffed animal, cards, etc. Next day the women talk about where their man took them for a fancy dinner, what jewelry they got as a gift, etc. and the men talk about where they took their woman, what they bought for her, etc. I remember seeing commercials, ads, billboards, and so on advertising on the things a man should do for her woman on Valentine's "A diamond lasts forever" or something like that showing a man kneeling in front of his woman. "Make her dreams come true..." and a man dining her woman in a fancy restaurant. And so on. In Asian countries it is the women who do these things for their man on February 14th and on March 14th it's the guys who do it for their woman . Nice balance.
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Originally Posted by Heartsong
I am a woman. I am a romantic woman
So I guess you enjoy reserving a restaurant for your man and leaving a gift for him on the table to surprise him when you take him there. You enjoy decorating his place so when he comes back that surprise welcomes him. You send not only a card but a gift to his office. You prepare a romantic picnic and take him out of the city to set the blanket and all and surprise him with it...you like doing these things, correct? I mean, being romantic involves action and initiative not only dreaming about being romanced.
Good question. When I have worked in the USA around February 14 I normally see women being showered with floweres delivered to their desk, stuffed animal, cards, etc. Next day the women talk about where their man took them for a fancy dinner, what jewelry they got as a gift, etc. and the men talk about where they took their woman, what they bought for her, etc. I remember seeing commercials, ads, billboards, and so on advertising on the things a man should do for her woman on Valentine's "A diamond lasts forever" or something like that showing a man kneeling in front of his woman. "Make her dreams come true..." and a man dining her woman in a fancy restaurant. And so on. In Asian countries it is the women who do these things for their man on February 14th and on March 14th it's the guys who do it for their woman . Nice balance.
So I guess you enjoy reserving a restaurant for your man and leaving a gift for him on the table to surprise him when you take him there. You enjoy decorating his place so when he comes back that surprise welcomes him. You send not only a card but a gift to his office. You prepare a romantic picnic and take him out of the city to set the blanket and all and surprise him with it...you like doing these things, correct? I mean, being romantic involves action and initiative not only dreaming about being romanced.
It seems in the West, when a woman does this she is perceived as creepy, controlling or like she is emasculating the man. I guess traditionally here romance has to do with the man courting the woman. I would like to see other people's thoughts on this.
It seems in the West, when a woman does this she is perceived as creepy, controlling or like she is emasculating the man. I guess traditionally here romance has to do with the man courting the woman. I would like to see other people's thoughts on this.
I prefer zero courting on either end. As a women, it makes me uncomfortable, and to be honest I'm not good with reciprocating romance either.
My husband and I don't exchange gifts. I do have a meal I prepare every year at home for us to eat as a family. I make shrimp scampi, asparagus, salad, garlic bread and brownie sundaes for dessert. The husband and I will drink wine at dinner. When the kids are in bed I'll probably throw him on my massage table and give him a full body massage(he loves it when I give him massages) and then move him off into the bedroom to do other things he likes
It seems in the West, when a woman does this she is perceived as creepy, controlling or like she is emasculating the man. I guess traditionally here romance has to do with the man courting the woman. I would like to see other people's thoughts on this.
That’s how I have seen it when I have lived in the USA. It is the men who are the ones that have to be romantic, not women. Like you said, a woman daring herself to be romantic involves her taking initiative and action instead of just simply dreaming about being romanced. Being perceived as creepy, controlling, or emasculating might be why romantic women are not that common who do the things I mentioned on my last post in this thread. Traditional romance pretty much has to do with a man courting a woman, not the other way around, at least in the west.
In the west, it seems romance for men revolves around sex. so that's what I have done..but romantic and sweet. Since my boyfriend doen'st really care for sex..I'm not doing anything other than maybe a card. I may actually be ending it with him sooner than that anyways so any ideas I may have might be irrelevant.
It seems in the West, when a woman does this she is perceived as creepy, controlling or like she is emasculating the man. I guess traditionally here romance has to do with the man courting the woman. I would like to see other people's thoughts on this.
not at all....woman are much more creative than men (usually) and if the woman wants to be assertive, more power to her...
nothing wrong with the woman taking the initiative,,,set the mood and activities for the evening..cook dinner,,give her man a massage,,and then maybe a nude limbo show.....
That’s how I have seen it when I have lived in the USA. It is the men who are the ones that have to be romantic, not women. Like you said, a woman daring herself to be romantic involves her taking initiative and action instead of just simply dreaming about being romanced. Being perceived as creepy, controlling, or emasculating might be why romantic women are not that common who do the things I mentioned on my last post in this thread. Traditional romance pretty much has to do with a man courting a woman, not the other way around, at least in the west.
maybe that was 40 years ago,,,,but like lesbians, its a two way street
the woman should be more assertive today---talk about emasculating,,,,,not easy to approach a lady today,,,,not sure if she is open to advances,,,dont know if she's a man hater and only likes woman,,,and most men today-have to endure "workplace culture" videos,, and policies, if a man looks at a woman the wrong way,,,its sexual harrassment...so we get very numb,,,to even flirting in the least..
if a man approaches a woman,,she can be easily offended...most men dont get offended by subtle advances or insinuations--not an even playing field..
[quote=Cantabridgienne;27924722]I pour him a big drink after he gets home from one of his busiest days of the year at work.[/QUOTE
I hope its more than water,,,,throw in a few ice cubes,,,make him feel real special
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