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Female posters have posed an important question to the older men on this thread that has yet to be answered, so I'll ask it again:
What will you do when the 20-something young woman you're in a "relationship" with and having porn sex with for 8 to 10 years becomes middle aged?!(perish the thought!)
Then what?
Will you dump them for younger women? Or will you not be in a "relationship" with them long enough for them to reach middle age? How long will this cycle continue? Until you're 60 years old wanting to have sex with a 20 year old?
Female posters have posed an important question to the older men on this thread that has yet to be answered, so I'll ask it again:
What will you do when the 20-something young woman you're in a "relationship" with and having porn sex with for 8 to 10 years becomes middle aged?!(perish the thought!)
Then what?
Will you dump them for younger women? Or will you not be in a "relationship" with them long enough for them to reach middle age? How long will this cycle continue? Until you're 60 years old wanting to have sex with a 20 year old?
Inquiring minds want to know.
I don't go for younger women, but my guess is that a 30-year-old would still seem pretty young to a 45-year-old (or whatever) since the age gap is pretty wide.
If I actually married or was in a long term relationship with someone 20 or 30 years younger, I'd stay in that relationship as we aged. The relationship would exist only because we're compatible regardless of the age difference, not because of the age difference. The greater risk is that a much younger woman would tire of an older man eventually, anyway. Besides, unless a man ages extraordinarily well, he's unlikely to be able to trade down (in age) as he ages. If he's delusional, he'll end up alone.
Female posters have posed an important question to the older men on this thread that has yet to be answered, so I'll ask it again:
What will you do when the 20-something young woman you're in a "relationship" with and having porn sex with for 8 to 10 years becomes middle aged?!(perish the thought!)
Then what?
Will you dump them for younger women? Or will you not be in a "relationship" with them long enough for them to reach middle age? How long will this cycle continue? Until you're 60 years old wanting to have sex with a 20 year old?
Inquiring minds want to know.
You upgrade to another 20 year old. Its really that simple and actualy happens all the time.
So, it is true. Older men only want younger women for their own sexual gratification and for their own perverted visual preferences. They're not interested in these younger womens' personalities, aspirations or their character. Got it. Also, do you really believe younger women don't "nag"? LOL. Young women complain about a lot of things just as much as older women "nag" about things. Younger women don't exist for your "entertainment". You should take off your foggy porn colored glasses and try to see things as they really are, not what you wish they were.
Pornographic preferences? Really? So, older men pick younger women to have sex with because that's the age demographic they get off to when they masturbate to porn? Or, could it be, that viewing and masturbating to younger women in porn is the closest they'll ever get to actually obtaining them in real life on a regular basis to satiate their perverted sexual urges? Hey, at least you're honest about it.
Sure it's possible. Although a truly mature man would be more attracted to women closer to his own age because of what those women can offer them emotionally as well as sexually and physically. A truly mature man with a stellar character would and can control their "biological" urges without giving into them. Immature and psychologically underdeveloped men will give in to their sexual urges without considering anything outside of their "biological" and "visual" sexual desires. As if younger women were walking pornographic sex dolls that only exist to visually and sexually satisfy them. Also, just because an older man is "sexually attracted" to younger women, that doesn't mean he has to act on it. Liberty said it best; older men who try to actually have sex with younger women are pathetically trying to recapture their youth and prove to themselves and to their buddies that they "still got it", even though they are physically aging as well lol.
Your last sentence is possible, but not probable. An older man wanting to have sex with a younger, "tighter" and visually more appealing body isn't interested in having an emotional relationship with the owner of that body other than to engage in regular porn sex with the female owner of said body. No really, we understand what you're saying.
What the reality is....is that these physically aging older men don't possess the decent and mature character traits that women their age are attracted to - and as Liberty stated earlier - younger women don't have the wisdom or life experience to ascertain what these men are really after, so these younger women are actuallly impressed with them and with the disingenuous things that these older men say to them to get these younger women to have sex with them.
This is a great response, so much better than I could have come up with!
I will point out though that I referenced the men aged 40+ that I know, not a sweeping generalization of all 40+ men on the dating scene. It is laughable that the sweeping generalization in reverse is that all young women can provide a better sexual experience and all older women are nags. I feel sorry for men whose narrow life experience has yielded these conclusions.
You cannot blame men for being the way that nature created them. Being attracted to younger women isnt a preference, its called BIOLOGY. A 20 year old woman has roughly 25 years to reproduce, while a 40 year may bot be able to have healthy children at all. That is all there is to it. Trying to shame men for being themselves, is something that feminazi movement would be proud of, but it doesnt really help anyone. Men attracted to younger women, is no different than women attracted to men who can protect and provide for their family unit. It all takes place at the subconscious level, and is more of a fact rather than a preference. The only sad people in this equation are men too inhibited and too chicken **** to understand this. Same guys that 15 minutes later pop on some college girl porn. Dont let nonsense shame you, be proud of being a "real" man, the way you were intended to be from the very beginning of our civilization.
From the men I know that are 40+ and on the dating scene, it seems the ones going for the much younger women are those that are struggling with their own aging process. Their attempts to snag a young woman are meant to prove something to themselves or to their buddies, that they've "still got it". The younger, less worldy and experienced girls/women have a different view than women their own age who aren't impressed by them and not baffled by their b.s.
I'm sure that, for some men, what you are saying is true. But I would hate to see people lose sight of the simple fact that young women tend to be extremely beautiful and sexy, so it doesn't matter how old a man is, or how he feels about his age, or who he wants to impress, the plain simple fact is that if he is heterosexual, and if he has a reasonable amount of testosterone, he will probably be physically attracted to young women. So then the only real question becomes: Is there any reason why this attraction might go beyond just physical attraction? For many men (as we've seen pointed out in this thread) there is a feeling that there is nothing in common, etc., so they don't try to date younger women because they don't feel that their interests and personalities match up very well. But there is really no reason why an older man couldn't, in some cases, feel attracted to the personality of a younger woman, and there is ultimately no reason why an older man and a young woman couldn't have a bunch of common interests.
As I explained in my earlier post (see page 3),I'm speaking from experience here because I'm 54 and two of my best friends are women in their 20s (they were both in their early 20s when I first met them a few years ago). I don't have sex with them (with one of them I've never had sex), but I still see them as wonderful friends. I'm probably an exception to the rule, but my point is just to remind people to avoid blanket generalizations. I'm sure it is possible for older men and younger women to be good friends, with or without sexual "benefits," and I don’t think it is reasonable to insist that great age differences necessarily prevents people from falling love. There doesn't have to be anything wrong with the relationship, or psychologically wrong with either of the people. (Of course in many cases there could be something psychologically askew, but my point is just that this is not necessarily the case.)
Last edited by Gaylenwoof; 01-29-2013 at 08:25 AM..
i think people tend to overthink things. everybody has their own preferences, and while there are certainly men who go for younger women for more "complicated" reasons (to feel younger about themselves, mid-life crisis, etc etc), there are many who just like the tighter, firmer look that younger women have. for me personally, i often find that an older woman (30+), even one that's actually more physically in shape, just lacks that vitality and vivaciousness of a 20-something that i so enjoy. i find it invigorating and fun to be around. and i'm 29 yrs old - not young but not middle aged either.
i think the same/similar holds for women too. i'm willing to bet that many women in their 30s or above would willingly hook up with a college jock instead of a 35 yr old average lookin guy. however, when a woman does it, it's justified as "exercising her sexual freedom"
what do you do when they get older though? you talk like women are permanently set fixed at a certain age
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(perish the thought!)
Also, do you really believe younger women don't "nag"? LOL. Young women complain about a lot of things just as much as older women "nag" about things. Younger women don't exist for your "entertainment". You should take off your foggy porn colored glasses and try to see things as they really are, not what you wish they were. 
