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Just check in with her every now and then until her divorce is final. Don't ask her out until then.
Filing doesn't mean anything is some cases. I know someone who filed in 2006 and to this day, they are still married and living together, yet still talk about divorcing.
I wouldn't say she needs to be divorced but at this point it doesn't seem like they're even separated? I would wait for a little while after she is officially separated at the very least. Rushing in now will just end up in confusion and heartache for both of you.
lol, i wont be surprised if the lady AND her husband, are using the whole "divorce" story to get free labor out of you guys.
No. She bought the house before she was engaged. And, the reason for the "time crunch" isn't at all related to the divorce. (although the divorce might be related to the time crunch)
Haven't had much luck posting threads in this sub-forum, but here goes anyway.
I'm fixing up a house in a neighborhood that is revitalizing. I have a neighbor--down the street and around the corner--who is doing the same thing.
I have helped her occasionally over the last year, when I wasn't too busy with my own project.
She was recently married, but her husband turned out to be kind of a deadbeat, and she says she will probably be getting a divorce.
She has run into a time crunch, so I've been helping out more lately, (along with many of her friends and without any help from hubby) to help her meet her deadline. (unrelated to her potential divorce)
I always thought she was attractive, but as I get to know her better lately, I'm finding myself more and more attracted to her. So, my question is about timing. Should I ask her out next time I have the opportunity? That seems like it might be in bad taste, since she isn't divorced, yet, but I also don't want someone else asking first, either. I'm also worried that she might think I'm expecting something for the help I've given. (I'd like to think I would have helped just as often, regardless of gender or looks, but it probably helped that she is an attractive woman. ) I don't want to ruin a potential friendship, even if she isn't interested in a relationship, and I think asking her out at the wrong time could ruin everything. Maybe I can't ask her out at all now, if I want to stay friends?
Any advice? (besides staying away from the drama altoghether)
Once the divorce is underway, float a trial balloon. It's not that hard to say to her, "Look, I know you're going through all this crap with the divorce and all, and I don't want to complicate your life. But once the divorce comes through, I was hoping that we might grab dinner or something." And then go back to grouting the tile in her bathroom.
Boom. No muss, no fuss. Non-threatening, low pressure, and demonstrating empathy for her current confused frame of mind.
She was recently married, but her husband turned out to be kind of a deadbeat, and she says she will probably be getting a divorce.
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Any advice? (besides staying away from the drama altoghether)
She recently got married and now is thinking about a divorce? I'd stay clear unless you want to face hellfire, be thought of as a royal a*hole, and maybe get your ass beaten. Really, the period of being a newly wed (~1-3years) is highly emotionally charged for both spouses.
And in your case, neither spouse has filed for divorce. That small technicality is such a tremendous emotional huddle that no one takes divorce seriously until it happens. Ask any divorce lawyer, one of the spouses has to have the balls to file for divorce before it becomes a realistic possibility. Stay away, and consider yourself forewarned.
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) I don't want to ruin a potential friendship, even if she isn't interested in a relationship, and I think asking her out at the wrong time could ruin everything. Maybe I can't ask her out at all now, if I want to stay friends?
