She thinks I made an intentional drop... can't retrieve my late fathers watch... (reason, crying)

[filihok]

Originally Posted by SwedishViking

I'm fairly sure the closest thing we have to that here will only guarantee she recieves it in person, but nothing more.

No.
You send her a letter.
You write a note saying you want the watch back
Inside the envelope you put a second envelope with a frimarke and your address. That way she can just drop the watch in and send it back.


I still think you should go to polisen and see what they say

[himain]

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. What a clam to do this!! I wish you luck and keep us posted!

[SwedishViking]

Originally Posted by filihok

No.
You send her a letter.
You write a note saying you want the watch back
Inside the envelope you put a second envelope with a frimarke and your address. That way she can just drop the watch in and send it back.


I still think you should go to polisen and see what they say

I feel like the police is a last resort option... it will take weeks before they even open the casefile in my experience... last time I had to deal with the police it took them over a month before they they told me they were looking into it and had some question... by then that issue was already solved and forgotten...

It gets documented, but that's not a benefit of neither me nor her...

Part of what I learned about her the evening I spent with her is that she doesn't have any scruples about lying and using her good looks to have her way... which is why I didn't want to to continue seeing her, her reason for not wanting to see me is probably the fact that we ran out of conversation... how she got mad at me I have no idea.

[filihok]

Originally Posted by SwedishViking

I feel like the police is a last resort option... it will take weeks before they even open the casefile in my experience... last time I had to deal with the police it took them over a month before they they told me they were looking into it and had some question... by then that issue was already solved and forgotten...

I don't believe that the police will be able to do anything
Just advise you of what you can and cannot do

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by SwedishViking

I'm fairly sure the closest thing we have to that here will only guarantee she recieves it in person, but nothing more.

Edit: had it looked up, if I send that it requires that she willingly walk tot he post office to show her ID in order to recieve it, feels more like a waste of cash than anything else... it requires her to tdo stuff but does not guarantee me anything.

No, you send this self-addressed, pre-stamped, insured envelope inside another ordinary one that will get delivered to her mailbox. Inside is a request that she drop the watch into the insured envelope, and mail it to you. This will give her an opportunity to return the watch to you without seeing you or talking to you.

If she doesn't take this opportunity, then you would have no choice but to go to her apt. and confront her in person. The reason it would be advisable to exhaust all other options before doing that is that she could call security or authorities on you. It could be construed as harassment or stalking.

[elnina]

I think, she wants to keep that watch. Give to someone or sell it. Otherwise she would give you the watch back.

Can't you wait till she is at home and then send a friend to pick up the watch?

[calipoppy]

Originally Posted by SwedishViking

I feel like the police is a last resort option... it will take weeks before they even open the casefile in my experience... last time I had to deal with the police it took them over a month before they they told me they were looking into it and had some question... by then that issue was already solved and forgotten...

It gets documented, but that's not a benefit of neither me nor her...

Part of what I learned about her the evening I spent with her is that she doesn't have any scruples about lying and using her good looks to have her way... which is why I didn't want to to continue seeing her, her reason for not wanting to see me is probably the fact that we ran out of conversation... how she got mad at me I have no idea.

She's probably mad because you kissed her (still thinking that you would score) even after you realized that there was no real chemistry between you. If she 'kissed the soldier' and then you gave an indication that you weren't really interested in her then she is definitely angry.

[MsAnnThrope]

Why didn't you ask her to leave it under the doormat or something?

If she continues like this (damn I'd love to have been a fly on the wall on that date) then your only recourse is the courts.

The cops won't touch it., it's a civil matter not criminal.

Issue her with a summons to court...you can serve it to her at work. That'll fix her.

Ppl hate being served at work. Hahhaha.

[trishguard]

Originally Posted by SwedishViking

Yeah ok so what do u guys think of this plan:
1. I'll go to her place and say "hello I want my watch back".
if failed
2. I turn to the police
if failed
3. I make a plea to her father and hope I can infuse some common ground in understanding the relation between a father and a child and why it's important to me... and hope he'll pursuade her (there are 4 possible people in her area that can be her father so I'll call all of them in that case)
if failed
4. Harass her within the limits of avoiding legal punishment...

Ask the police to meet you at her house to get your watch.

[MsAnnThrope]

Originally Posted by trishguard

Ask the police to meet you at her house to get your watch.

They won't go.

It's a civil dispute. There is no crime.

If OP starts harrassing her, that's another story.