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I need a little advice on a situation I have. I've had a casual sex buddy off an on for a few yrs now. We met back in 07' and sort of hit it off. We started off as friends nothing more seeing as tho I wasn't physically attracted to him. One night he asked me to come have some drinks with him and one thing lead to another and next thing I know we were having the BEST sex in a hotel room. Since then we have had this relationship. We lost contact in maybe spring 09'. We met again sometime in 2010 later in the yr we lost contact again. So 2011 comes and we see each other in Memphis and make plans to hook up once we get back home...nothin happens I lost my phone and all contact is lost again. Well last yr around Nov. we run into each other at a club and again exchange numbers. Since then we have kept in contact but didn't do the deed again until a few weeks ago. Once again we have the best sex!!!! Hands down!!! We lately he's been asking questions about why we never tried a relationship, we always lose contact but find each other and do I think it's meant to be, or how come I only call him late at nite(wee hours) and never during the day. Over the yrs regardless of how many times we've lost contact I genuinely care about his feelings and don't want to hurt him but a relationship is OUT of the question. We have cheated on people to mess around with each other. We started out creeping and are now currently creeping. Trust would never be in our relationship. I'm afraid that if I tell him how I honestly feel he'll cut US off completely. I know it would be selfish to continue leading him on but like I said the sex is amazing. Sorry so long but please give me some advice ....
If you care about him enjoy his company and you both cheat to be together well what harm would it do to give a relationship a go? I think it would be good
Thanks Elained, My friend said the same thing and she's 100% against our sexscapades LoL. I want things to stay the way they are. I have grown accustomed to our late nite get togethers. I love having someone I can call or text 1 or 2 in the am that can come over and make me laugh...have fun with, and sex like there's no tomorrow and send him home!!! A relationship would ruin everything.
All I read was Memphis. RuralCityGal lives near there. She might find this interesting, somehow. Yes, motel rooms do make for good sex ... a bed AND a shower.
How exciting. But a little too wild for me. Still I'll try to answer you. Just be honest with him, that because of the cheating, trust would be hard to build. If you went slowly, spent time, possibly platonically together during daylight hours, or maybe over a dinner where you could talk, like starting over , as though you two don't have this sexy history, you could slowly try to build that trust. Communicate this concern to him in a loving way and see if you can start over so trust can be built. Clearly there is the attraction and I think that's awesome! Unless the turn on here is the forbidden. Then IDK, but only giving it a try will tell. Go for it
I don't plan on leaving my relationship...later in the year but no time soon. I don't want a relationship with him I want things to stay the way they are. The whole losing contact thing is mainly due to getting new phones or locking our phones up and resetting them.
kinda makes looking at porn ..pretty insignificant...
there comes a point in time,,where maturity and responsibility and respect comes into play,,,if not respect for you or him,,,respect for a potential husband/wife
somehow, I dont think this would go over well if someone eventually proposes
this is like dairy queen giving you all the free blizzards you can eat... and you are trying to be on a diet....what a conflict..
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