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Old 02-20-2013, 02:48 PM
 
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Please don't come in here talking about "I have standards, blah, blah ,yackety, yack"


I'm not talking about your PREFERENCES. I'm talking about just being picky. Not being able to freely accpet someone as is. By the way, this doesn't mean you cannot have your preferances(standards).

This goes beyond that. Are people just to darn picky for their own good?


Hence the reason why many are single and cannot find a suitablr mate?
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Old 02-20-2013, 02:55 PM
 
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I had better luck dating when I became extremely picky.

People don't want to think you're 'settling' for them because you'll date absolutely anyone and everyone.

When I became picky and upped my 'standards' I started going out with men who I had more in common with and got along MUCH better with than before.
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Old 02-20-2013, 02:57 PM
 
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Yes. I blame the media for feeding us too much fantasy.
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Old 02-20-2013, 03:14 PM
 
Location: NY
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Hmmm...

I think there are differences between being too "picky" and being properly selective.

Being properly selective is about knowing yourself well enough to know which things you can accept as is, and which things you won't be able to accept as is.

Being too picky is just that, nit-picking minor details, traits, etc, that really would not hold a high level of importance to you down the road.
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Old 02-20-2013, 03:31 PM
 
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yes picky, not willing to compromise and thinking that things should be a certain way just because they saw it or read it somewhere. people are so busy trying to make themselves perfectly happy that they are missing out on true happiness.
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Old 02-20-2013, 03:39 PM
 
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From what I've seen, people just want clones of themselves and since they feel that they are perfect, they expect perfection.
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Old 02-20-2013, 03:44 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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From what I've seen, people just want clones of themselves and since they feel that they are perfect, they expect perfection.
This.

And nothing is wrong with it.
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Old 02-20-2013, 03:48 PM
 
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Yes. So many people have a laundry list of requirements that keep them from ever being happy. When you meet the right person, the small stuff doesn't matter anymore but when you refuse to give anyone a chance, you'll end up alone forever.
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Old 02-20-2013, 03:50 PM
 
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This.

And nothing is wrong with it.

Eh, I think there is plenty wrong with it as it's extremely narcissistic and I'm tired of the narcissism. These people aren't as perfect as they think they are.
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Old 02-20-2013, 03:54 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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Eh, I think there is plenty wrong with it as it's extremely narcissistic and I'm tired of the narcissism. These people aren't as perfect as they think they are.
Maybe, but I don't see why people get huffy over others who know what they want. People like that won't waste your time and they won't let you waste theirs.
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