Isn't Drunk Talk Usually Truth Talk......... (father-in-law, marry, women, love)
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I apologize in advance for the length.... however, I wanted to give a little back story ....
Recently moved out of my home town and left my ex behind. After realizing I was serious and really leaving him behind he begged me to let him move to be with me for nearly a year. I wrote him long letter outlining what I would/would not accept if I let him move to be with me. I let him know very clearly what I expected from him. He agreed to everything and told me I was right about everything I’d said in my letter. When he first arrived everything was wonderful (sunshine, rose petals and happy songs LOL). Slowly it went from sugar to sh*t and it didn’t take long to realize the honeymoon was OVER. Although it’s clear he’s trying to work on the things I told him I wouldn’t deal with, it seems like he doing it grudgingly. On one hand I see him trying and on the other hand he’s going back to his old ways.
Yesterday was the day that makes me say I made a HORRIBLE mistake by letting him move to where I am. I had a doctor’s appointment and he knew about it. I called him and he didn’t answer his phone. When I finally spoke with him he said he was “with friends and didn’t hear the phone”. I think that was a load of crap so I told him so and hung up on him. I’d say about 3 hours later he started calling me about every 45 minutes but I never answered his calls. So last night he goes to a party with the same people he was with when he “didn’t hear my call” and gets TOTALLY trashed!! He calls me around midnight and I answered and he was talking kind of crazy so I know he was well on his way to being drunk. So I tell him to leave me alone and we get off the phone. He calls back a few more times and I was half sleep so I honestly don’t remember the conversations.
So around 3am I wake up and he’s not home yet. I’m PISSED because our rule is you do NOT stay out all night. Doesn’t matter who you’re with and where you are and …. there is NEVER a good reason to stay out all night. So I get in my car go to where he is (not too far from the house). I pull up and he’s in his car , 2 open beers in the tray, car keys in his lap, drivers side car door WIDE open and he’s PASSED OUT!! I was LIVID … I went ballistic on him!!! He’s barely coherent so he’s mumbling saying “I’m right outside the house” …. I’m like NO YOUR NOT!! So I’m trying to make him get up so he can get in my car and I can drive him home and he won’t move. So then he starts in with the “drunk talk”. You’re so F’n annoying, you get on my nerves just leave me the F alone and all types of other stuff. So at first I’m ignoring him chalking it up to “drunk talk” then as I try to make him get out of his car he continues talking crap. So I say IF you feel this way WHY did you move here and he says “cause I didn’t have nothing better to do” he’s going on and on and on… REALLY pissing me off because this is all stuff I was “thinking “he felt before. So I poured out the beers, took his keys threw them in the back under passenger seat and left his ass there. This morning I’m getting ready for work and he comes in and asks we argue a bit and then I leave for work. So around lunch time he calls me a few times asking “what did I say to you”? I told him I was at work and did NOT want to get into it with him. We hang up and he calls me back like an hour later saying what did I say???? Did I say I didn’t want to marry you? I told him no but he said other things that I wasn’t getting into. He then said … so is it over are we over? I can’t imagine us being over and then he asked were we still doing something for his birthday!! I am STILL so pissed OFF about the WHOLE thing.
So… should I take all the mean stuff he said as “drunk talk” or should I take it as… a drunk usually tells the truth??? I’ve always believed drunks say what people really want to say when their sober!!!
I'm sorry I did not have the patience to read all of your post (short attention span). But I can say that I don't think drunk talk is always truthful talk, anymore than acid talk or meth talk is truthful talk. If you want to know what someone is really thinking, you need to develop intimacy and openness.
Can you hold onto that winner so he does not become unleashed into society so that none of us single women will ever have to deal with him? Thank you in advance.
Yes, your right. If you want to hear the truth, listen to a drunk! I have always heard this.
It sounds like you have been down this road with him, more than once.
I would send him back to where he come from, and get on with your life! Good luck!!!
I do think alcohol has a way of unleashing the person's core personality. If somebody is a happy after a few belts, chances are they're happy on the inside. On the other hand, my father-in-law and his sons are all pretty belligerent drunks. We had a Christmas party once where one of my clients showed up with his guitar and my brother-in-law, a normally mild-mannered guy, hated him immediately. As in wanting to throw this inoffensive guy out of my house. I had to tell my BIL to get the hell out of my house and stay out until he sobered up. He came by the next day with an apology, but I've noticed this behavior in him since.
Answer: Hell no! I have been a bit tipsy a time or two and had given the impression I was really into a few girls that I wasn't, only to wake up the next morning asking myself, wtf?
Answer: Hell no! I have been a bit tipsy a time or two and had given the impression I was really into a few girls that I wasn't, only to wake up the next morning asking myself, wtf?
Well, there is a difference between love and lust, you know. I mean, who hasn't tried picking up somebody Ms. Right Now after a few belts?
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