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I dont understand why some people cry over breakups with their bf or gf.What is the point of crying for days weeks or even months. My bestfriend broke up with her bf a few months ago and she is still not over it. I dont get it. I told her life goes on and to suck it up get over it and move on. There are so manyother fish in the sea. She was really getting on my nerves and I am trying to help her. For me Its just a waste of time to cry. I dont believe in that broken heart mess with a bf or gf. So how can I help my friend forget and get over this guy already. She needs to stop acting like a cry baby.
alou703, not everyone is a realist like you..some people are very sensitive and their feelings are very deep and consuming. The best thing you can do for your friend is to listen to her and try to help her move on gently. Let her cry if she must. There's a lot of people who [really] invest a lot of themselves into a relationship, and sometimes they [really] believe it will last. When it doesn't they are shocked and may feel their hopes and dreams are dashed. She'll learn from this, and "get over this" sooner than later. Just try and divert her from thinking of him when you're with her..
Honestly? I think you should just stay as far away from your friend as possible right now and let other people fill the void. Your capacity for empathy and compassion appear to be nonexistent, and you're not going to learn it in time to be of use to her. You will likely do more damage than good.
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I agree with this post.
OP, you come across more than a little bit insensitive. Give your friend time to grieve her loss. The younger the person, or the worse the break up, the harder it is to recover.
Just because you handle break ups one way, doesnt mean your friend is wrong in handling it her way. Simply put, some people handle breakups differently than others.
I was going to snag this thread title, but it was taken...so here I am!
I'm sort of in a break-up situation, too...(I think)....guy I was seeing has not returned phone calls or responded to an "I miss you/please call me" card I sent him. I was out of town for two weekends...was hoping to get back in touch this past week...
Sort of an odd way to call it off. I kinda like an "exit interview". Any opinions on breaking up?
I was going to snag this thread title, but it was taken...so here I am!
I'm sort of in a break-up situation, too...(I think)....guy I was seeing has not returned phone calls or responded to an "I miss you/please call me" card I sent him. I was out of town for two weekends...was hoping to get back in touch this past week...
Sort of an odd way to call it off. I kinda like an "exit interview". Any opinions on breaking up?
There probably isn't a good or right way to dump someone. It's tough for the dumpee no matter what assuming they didn't see it coming.
Hard not to be sad when you experience a loss.
Especially if it was something important to you.
However, I think people's biggest problem is putting the sad events of their lives in perspective.
They are terrible about that and tend to wallow.
There is a grieving process that takes time and it depends on the person and the feelings. No two people are alike nor are relationships that one person has alike. If there were deep feelings then there will be grief and it takes time to get through that.
What i dont like it is that this isnt a clean cut.
Last bf dumped me via a phonecall...'just not working out'....which i knew it wasnt, really, but he made the break, more final.
I think in this case my feelings were deepr or it was a better match...I was the one thinking of ending it, but then....decided to keep it going...but then this "cut off contact" thing...so not as clean a break, and also something I wanted to keep up.
What i dont like it is that this isnt a clean cut.
Last bf dumped me via a phonecall...'just not working out'....which i knew it wasnt, really, but he made the break, more final.
I think in this case my feelings were deepr or it was a better match...I was the one thinking of ending it, but then....decided to keep it going...but then this "cut off contact" thing...so not as clean a break, and also something I wanted to keep up.
Take heart as you're not alone. Dumpees have it worse emotionally in my opinion.
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