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My partner and I have been together for 8 years now. We have been thinking about whether we should get married. Our feelings have mostly been against it because we dont feel the need to tie ourselves together, but we've been recently thinking about the tax implications and next of kin.
When we first met, It was my boyfriend who was persuading me not to do it. I was weary but still didn't think Its important. Now I am sure that we can have a child in 5 years without needing to get married
If you don't think you want to be "tied together" then don't have a kid. Screw the actual marriage if you like. But don't intentionally bring a kid into an uncommitted relationship.
My partner and I have been together for 8 years now. We have been thinking about whether we should get married. Our feelings have mostly been against it because we dont feel the need to tie ourselves together, but we've been recently thinking about the tax implications and next of kin.
When we first met, It was my boyfriend who was persuading me not to do it. I was weary but still didn't think Its important. Now I am sure that we can have a child in 5 years without needing to get married
Whats your take on this?
When there are children involved - you get married.
This is one of the sole purposes of marriage - to raise children in the most protected environment possible.
Ever watch Judge Judy? She can be very entertaining, lol.
But aside from that, she is VERY informative.
One thing she always stresses to couples who show up in her courtroom that used to live together and have now broken up and are suing each other for various things...there is no court process to aid and protect unmarried people who co-habitate. NONE.
If you live together and he decides he's done and leaves you in the middle of the night with a stack of bills, rent due, a loan you are both supposed to pay back to your grandma, whatever, there is no legal remedy for you to recover any of that.
Be smart, protect yourself and your future child to the best of your ability. Get married first
It's one the best options. You bet things will start going wrong the moment you sign the paper. It's like a really big black cloud that starts hanging over your heads because of the possible financial ruin it can bring.
If you don't think you want to be "tied together" then don't have a kid. Screw the actual marriage if you like. But don't intentionally bring a kid into an uncommitted relationship.
Ummm...........What makes you think getting married is better for the kid. Marriage is just a social construct. Just google 'Divorce in America
It's one the best options. You bet things will start going wrong the moment you sign the paper. It's like a really big black cloud that starts hanging over your heads because of the possible financial ruin it can bring.
It's one the best options. You bet things will start going wrong the moment you sign the paper. It's like a really big black cloud that starts hanging over your heads because of the possible financial ruin it can bring.
And you know this because of all your VAST life experience, education and personal knowledge on actual relationships and parenthood?
Ummm...........What makes you think getting married is better for the kid. Marriage is just a social construct. Just google 'Divorce in America
I did not say getting married is better for the kid. I said being in a committed relationship is. The piece of paper is useless. And while kids survive divorce and breakup, the ideal family unit is one in which there is more than one parental unit for love, caring, modelling etc.. I don't see why someone who foresees breakup would subject a human child to that risk.
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