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It is generally best not to talk politics or religion with friends and family, it brings nothing but aggravation on both sides and solves more than nothing. Stick to talking about the weather and................IF you are wondering if you are with the RIGHT PERSON just because of differing political views you have way more serious problems than politics.
Things might be a little bit easier talking with him if you ceased seeing as the "dark side." Just a thought. You can have different opinions and still respect each other. My husband is much more conservative than I am and there are many issues that we disagree upon. However, he does agree with me on the issues that are most important to me.
I come here to have conversations I can't have with regular people in my life (because they are disinclined, afraid, not into 'debating,' feel too strongly the opposite not to get offended, uninformed, etc).
I enjoy learning and making an argument and understanding other people's point of view so much, I am so glad this outlet exists. Because the fact is, besides my family (mom, dad, and bro...we grew up on debates about politics, philosophy, etc, around the dinner table - sometimes we scared our guests with our gusto and passion), there aren't many people you can discuss ideas with at more than a superficial level.
I am lucky to have a couple of friends I can do this with, but my wife...? Whoo boy, no way. She's too literal a person to play devil's advocate and she doesn't enjoy confrontation. Luckily, we agree on most major life issues.
Op, just keep your trap shut about politics at home. It's irrelevant.
Honestly? I view my politics as a direct reflection of my moral values and personal code. A person with political beliefs that are diametrically opposed to mine isn't going to be someone I could spend my life with. I realize many people make this work, but having grown up as the sole liberal in my immediate family, I've found that I really value being with someone whose political beliefs align with my own. In my family, I think their conservative beliefs are not a reflection of their strengths but a reflection of their weaknesses - narcissism, narrow-mindedness, bigotry and lack of education. I know plenty of conservatives who are NOT like this (indeed, I have many friends who are very intelligent conservatives), but my upbringing has led me to seek out romantic partners who are like-minded when it comes to politics. My parents and I have an unspoken agreement not to discuss politics, and we get along just fine - and that, OP, is really the only route open to you if you want to maintain this marriage. Take politics off the table as a discussion topic. Accept that your husband cannot be "all things" to you and that one must compromise to maintain a relationship.
I don't like discussing politics with anyone. Whether we agree or disagree, I avoid it at all costs. I see no point in it and have found that even when you predominatly agree on most issues with someone, at some point you end up in a heated argument with that person the further down that road you travel. I don't know, I just don't understand the appeal. No one ever changes anyone's minds in political debates. It seems to always turn into mud slinging. If anything, it causes people to be more extreme, driving each side further apart. It's possible the bigger issue I have with politics is my hatered of bipartisanship. Trying to divide all issues right down the middle and make them black and white is absurd. I get called a liberal by conservatives, and a conservative by liberals. It's comical at times.
I don't like discussing politics with anyone. Whether we agree or disagree, I avoid it at all costs. I see no point in it and have found that even when you predominatly agree on most issues with someone, at some point you end up in a heated argument with that person the further down that road you travel. I don't know, I just don't understand the appeal. No one ever changes anyone's minds in political debates. It seems to always turn into mud slinging. If anything, it causes people to be more extreme, driving each side further apart. It's possible the bigger issue I have with politics is my hatered of bipartisanship. Trying to divide all issues right down the middle and make them black and white is absurd. I get called a liberal by conservatives, and a conservative by liberals. It's comical at times.
LOL I hear you.
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