Lovemaking vs Homemaking (man, husband, kids, partner)
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And thank you for your input.... You are free to create another thread with a truer dichotomy, and I won't make an insulting post about it.
I am sorry. I was commenting on the dichotomy, not YOU. I could have been nicer. But I don't understand why so many people on this board try so hard to equate things as relationship related that have absolutely nothing to do with the basics of relationships.
I am sorry. I was commenting on the dichotomy, not YOU. I could have been nicer. But I don't understand why so many people on this board try so hard to equate things as relationship related that have absolutely nothing to do with the basics of relationships.
I am not really trying to prove any points - just curious how people think and their priorities (e.g. do you prefer chocolate or vanilla, if you could only choose one). I am also not "trying hard" to equate anything, not sure where you got that. I did not equate messy people with being great in bed, or neat people with being bad in bed, as I don't believe that at all. There has been some research on how amount of sex may be affected by how housekeeping is divided - but that wasn't the point of this thread at all.
I'm surprised at how many will put neatness over a great sex life! You can't all be asexual. Some of you must be able to clean rather than expect your partner to do all that. False dichotomy or not, I'd have thought this would be an overwhelmingly simple choice in favor of a great sex life! LOL
I am sorry. I was commenting on the dichotomy, not YOU. I could have been nicer. But I don't understand why so many people on this board try so hard to equate things as relationship related that have absolutely nothing to do with the basics of relationships.
I just took it as a question regarding a hypothetical situation for fun, and not indicative at all of actual relationship dynamics.
I am not really trying to prove any points - just curious how people think and their priorities (e.g. do you prefer chocolate or vanilla, if you could only choose one). I am also not "trying hard" to equate anything, not sure where you got that. I did not equate messy people with being great in bed, or neat people with being bad in bed, as I don't believe that at all. There has been some research on how amount of sex may be affected by how housekeeping is divided - but that wasn't the point of this thread at all.
I did not think you equated them at all. But the comparison I see is do you prefer hockey or ice cream?
I'm surprised at how many will put neatness over a great sex life! You can't all be asexual. Some of you must be able to clean rather than expect your partner to do all that. False dichotomy or not, I'd have thought this would be an overwhelmingly simple choice in favor of a great sex life! LOL
Having sex with the same person over and over is going to get dull after a while, I rather have a clean house. And please spare me your you have to spice it up with your spouse blah, blah, blah.
I'm surprised at how many will put neatness over a great sex life! You can't all be asexual. Some of you must be able to clean rather than expect your partner to do all that. False dichotomy or not, I'd have thought this would be an overwhelmingly simple choice in favor of a great sex life! LOL
Which proves the point that sex is only one component of a good relationship, not the be-all-end-all.
I'm surprised at how many will put neatness over a great sex life! You can't all be asexual. Some of you must be able to clean rather than expect your partner to do all that. False dichotomy or not, I'd have thought this would be an overwhelmingly simple choice in favor of a great sex life! LOL
I can only speak for my own answer.
I chose #1 because to start, I equate adequate to being acceptable and satisfying. It's not inadequate. Also, I know in my own marriage that our sex lives have gotten better over time too as we learn each other better and improve our communication. So I did not take "adequate" to imply it is a life sentance.
Now, as far as cleanlliness. I find that people who are untidy, are just untidy people. They can try and strive to be more cleanly, tidy, or organized, but if they are not naturally inclined to those traits they will ultimately revert to a state of clutter.
So in weighing the two options, I felt that #1 would grow into even better sex (since we are talking long term relationships), and offer tidy conditions, while #2 meant a perpetural state of not being as cleanly.
PS, I also do not see it as a question of who cleans. If I do all the cleaning, it is still far easier living with a tidy person, than a slob. Last thing I want to do is chase another adult around picking up for them every day. I have a 4 year old to do that for already!!
I am sorry. I was commenting on the dichotomy, not YOU. I could have been nicer. But I don't understand why so many people on this board try so hard to equate things as relationship related that have absolutely nothing to do with the basics of relationships.
Couldn't agree more. And it seems many who occupy the relationship section have limited or no experience with relationships, so spend time talking about hypotheticals, making up weird polls, or nitpicking over the opposite gender's height, weight, nose size, shoe size, dating someone with bad teeth, or unemployed, arbitrary rating scales, etc, etc, instead of actually discussing real relationships and real relationship issues.
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