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Just curious how long most people are in relationships before getting engaged/married? I don't see the rush in getting married, and maybe that's because my mom was never married and also a single mom. My bf and I have been together for 5 1/2 years and have two kids together but we aren't engaged and that's fine with me but it gets annoying hearing people's comments about why we aren't engaged or married yet..
Timelines right for a given couple include practically innumerable individual variables. Not just for marriage, but for any relationship steps and milestones.
Just curious how long most people are in relationships before getting engaged/married? I don't see the rush in getting married, and maybe that's because my mom was never married and also a single mom. My bf and I have been together for 5 1/2 years and have two kids together but we aren't engaged and that's fine with me but it gets annoying hearing people's comments about why we aren't engaged or married yet..
As long as it's fine with you, it doesn't matter what anyone else says, or does. Do you want to get married at some point?
Timelines right for a given couple include practically innumerable individual variables. Not just for marriage, but for any relationship steps and milestones.
This is true, and I sometimes think some couples get into trouble when their relationship isn't working, so instead of taking the hard step of breaking up they get engaged, since they've been together for long enough and everyone says that it's time. Everything is exciting and distracting for a couple of years, and then once the newlywed novelty wears off, they're back where they started. (and then they do the "see, marriage is for chumps" thing.)
If the OP's relationship is working the way she and her partner want it to, then they don't need to do anything different.
Last edited by fleetiebelle; 07-13-2015 at 10:19 AM..
this is funny because I have seen posts here dealing with people having a separate issue from "marriage" who have been together for a sum of years and people asking "why havent you gotten married yet?" as a side.
Ideally it should be taken as it comes in context to your realtionship, but given reaction and response to similar lines of questioning with different approaches seen here on CD, I would say people have their own ideal timeline that they would not be happy to pass over in their own lives.
That's what I always thought. Theres really no length of time, just whenever it feels "right'. But honestly, I'm not sure I ever want to get married. I'm not sure I'm even "in love" which is maybe why I avoid the subject with him.
Whether or not you choose to stay with somebody you aren't necessarily in love with is its own separate thing.
But there is no timeline for when is the right time to get married, and there is no mandate TO get married, period.
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