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You're a good looking guy, but that's not going to be enough. People with Aspergers are socially challenged. That certainly doesn't help the situation. Don't go to a site where you have to pay women to date you. A lot of those women are hookers trying to skirt the law. The rest are, more than likely, looking for a sugar daddy. You're diving in a pool that is full of fakes and Aspies are the farthest from fake as it can get.
I suggest you find a local Aspergers support group in your area. Google it. Meetup.com may have some. Your money is better spent on acquiring the knowledge and tools that will help you co-exist more comfortably with neurotypicals and find ways to help them understand you.
This is really great advice.
Your condition probably makes it much more difficult, but you are in good company OP. I really think you will find someone and live a fulfilled life if you arm yourself with the tools to help you out.
You may just have to find a very patient woman who is willing to take it slow and get to know you, especially if it takes a few dates to really open up. That probably won't be easy to find, but they're out there
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I had a long reply all typed up and then it didn't go through!!!.
Here's the gist of my post and I'm going to focus on looks and specifics because others have talked to you about your social behavior.
Your wireframe glasses are way out of style. Looks extremely dorky. Either get contacts or get some black/brown plastic glasses. (see Warby Parker website for examples).
Dress better. Mens' jeans should be very dark blue unless your on a farm or ranch. And short sleeve shirts should not have collars unless you're on a golf course or you've got some rambo biceps to show off.
You also have a receding hairline. I'd see a top stylist and ask him/her what hairstyle would work with that.
btw having an age range of 21-34 when you are 32 screams CREEP. Your own age should be in the middle of the age range your seeking.
Instead of online dating sites in LA, I'd agree that Asperger's-specific groups would be great to find, and maybe put you more in the way of the right people.
Also maybe try Mensa: I don't mean to stereotype you, and please forgive me if it sounds that way, but many studies do link Asperger's and genius (and there's your education of course), and in my experience Mensa gatherings are full of people who are socially ...atypical? but everyone who comes along to one is embraced for their gifts and their company, no pressure to conform or participate or fit in. Lots of interesting people too.
Something to think about, some of us just aren't talkers. I love silence, myself, but many people, especially first dates you've just met, can be very uncomfortable with conversation gaps or too much quiet -- it can come across as a lack of interest too. So first dates maybe should be to movies or events, instead of dinners or walks on the beach, where a running conversation would be expected more.
The funniest thing is, that the right one always seems to come along when you *give up* looking. So maybe throw yourself into a favorite hobby and make an extra effort to do the things you really like doing, for *you*, and then bang, who knows. I'll bet that's when it'll surprise you from nowhere.
Good luck!
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