Just asked out a barista

[TJenkins602]

Originally Posted by Badger55

I know, I know, they are paid to be polite/nice.

Yesterday, I was the only one at the coffee place (small place at work), and we talked for 20 minutes. No one else came.

Today, I went back, and she gave me come cookies for free. I asked her if I could repay her with dinner, and she blushed HARD, and said "ummm I don't think my boyfriend would like that." To which I replied, "Im not asking you to marry me, just get lunch." She laughed and said, "I know, I know." I told her to "think about it" and let me know. I'll probably go back there in a few days, but I don't expect anything to come from it.

I would have backed off when she said boyfriend. The blush is a good sign and all, but... I'm not going to break anything up like that.

[TJenkins602]

[quote=JerZ;29560759]"Just asked out a bacteria." /QUOTE]

Those types tend to spoil things.

[Prince_Frog]

I suppose this is where you keep track of all the girls you ask out?

I don't really get why this was a thread.

Guess this is another way of getting attention or something. lol.

[cindersslipper]

OP don't you have another "barista" thread?

Where she also said "no"?

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And didn't you do the same thing in a bookstore too?

[AverageGuy2006]

Originally Posted by JerZ

They do flirt to get tips. Or at least, they act extra-friendly in order to get tips. I don't think they're necessarily flirting with the intention of being asked out, but that "we're great friends" attitude is a pretty common tip-getting device among servers of all kinds.

To add to this, for a while I frequented a bar a handful of times over one summer. Most of the time, it was by myself. Thing is, half the people in the bar were alone. But after a few minutes, you start chatting up the person next to you, or the bartender started chatting you up if you were non threatening enough.
After awhile, I would wind up chatting with the bartender a lot. The bartenders there were all women, but it was only ever one bartender per shift on duty.
Anywho, we usually got quite chatty, but I think more than anything they were chatty just cause I was there, and if I got bored, they know guys would leave quicker. One bartender in particular was very very attractive, and it was funny, cause I would watch guys come in, look around, see no one was at the bar to hit on, and then.... "whoa, I think I'll sit down and have a drink," once they noticed the bartender. hahah. It was awesome to watch. It kind of opened my eyes as to how some women attract guys like crazy, and they don't even really try. A friendly smile on an attractive woman in a service industry can reel the guys in like none other. Haha, it still cracks me up. These guys would sit next to me and make some semi crude comment about the bartender quietly towards me, then when she walked up to make a drink, the same guy would be all, "hi beautiful! How's it going?"

The bartenders were always sweet, but I don't think they do it solely to be sweet. They try to create an atmosphere in which you come back, and hopefully with friends. It's all part of the business/industry. Be it coffee, beer, or whatever. And tips help I'm sure, but not all of them are that concerned with that whopping $10 or $20 tip.