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So a couple of times that I have met women, I have gotten the comments that they "don't get me" and that I can be "confusing". Is that a good or bad thing? I don't know..they don't say it in a bad way and we do have fun, laugh or what not together. I would think it is a good thing to not just be all out there though. The last girl that I dated said that she could not read me..what is that supposed to mean?
So a couple of times that I have met women, I have gotten the comments that they "don't get me" and that I can be "confusing". Is that a good or bad thing? I don't know..they don't say it in a bad way and we do have fun, laugh or what not together. I would think it is a good thing to not just be all out there though. The last girl that I dated said that she could not read me..what is that supposed to mean?
Sounds like in this situation it may not be a good thing. If you are being reserved or aloof, it could be a turn off even if they are expressing it in a polite way.
Sounds like in this situation it may not be a good thing. If you are being reserved or aloof, it could be a turn off even if they are expressing it in a polite way.
Aloof? Me? Naaahh, I am not reserved either...well to a point I am lol. I think maybe I give out mixed signals..maybe that's what it is.
Well, everyone is different, so I can only speak for myself. Mixed signals from a man might interest me for a while (while I try to figure things out); But in the long run, if they last, they usually end up making me annoyed and is a big turn off.
I've run into this situation before. Do you have some control issues? I've dated more than one guy who clearly liked me and wanted more, but couldn't quite bring himself to let down his guard enough to establish any real emotional intimacy.
Well, everyone is different, so I can only speak for myself. Mixed signals from a man might interest me for a while (while I try to figure things out); But in the long run, if they last, they usually end up making me annoyed and is a big turn off.
I've run into this situation before. Do you have some control issues? I've dated more than one guy who clearly liked me and wanted more, but couldn't quite bring himself to let down his guard enough to establish any real emotional intimacy.
It's not a control thing as much as a I don't want to get hurt thing..
It's not a control thing as much as a I don't want to get hurt thing..
So you have a wall up. This is seen as a negative regardless of gender. Anyone who is guarded with their feelings due to fear, is going to have severe issues becoming close with anyone (emotionally).
It's not a control thing as much as a I don't want to get hurt thing..
I was like that for a long time. After being hurt. Trying to avoid it. It just led me down the path of a lot of unsatisfying endings to attempts to find dates/relationships.
Ultimately, you have to take some risk to put yourself out there when seeking reward.
Not everyone is going to be judgemental and often, what we are afraid of being judged we see as a bigger issue than those around us do.
I was like that for a long time. After being hurt. Trying to avoid it. It just led me down the path of a lot of unsatisfying endings to attempts to find dates/relationships.
Ultimately, you have to take some risk to put yourself out there when seeking reward.
Not everyone is going to be judgemental and often, what we are afraid of being judged we see as a bigger issue than those around us do.
Hmm, that actually makes sense..I guess you guys are right..nothing ventured..nothing gained eh?
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