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Eh, this could be the onset. Midtwenties onset for mental illness is more common for men than for women, but it does happen. Or, as others suggested, it could have been controlled by medication previously, and now is not. It's hard to say, but with such erratic behavior, it's probably a possibility. There's really not enough information given, though. It could be nothing of the kind.
OP, has anything been done to rule out and/or treat mental health problems? Is addressing such things a possibility, or are you out?
I'm not sure if this is the way a wife should act in the marriage. This is really my first marriage and I'm 25 years old and she's 24.
We've been together for 2 years, engaged for a couple months and married for a year now. The problem is for the past 5 months every time we argue, she gets into these ridiculous tantrums and suddenly it's all my fault all the time. Most of the time I don't even start arguing; she does.
In her tantrums, she stomps on things, calls me the most horrible names and even throws objects. I've having a hard time dealing with her sudden mood swings and so I keep leaving but this is stressing me out. What happened to the woman I once dated, proposed to and married? There weren't these weird tantrums.
She's emotionally abusive and verging on physical abuse. Are you going to wait until she throws something heavy or made of glass at your head?
You say you keep leaving. Next time, don't go back.
Funny, but if this situation were reversed, and a woman was writing in talking about a man calling her names, stomping on things, and throwing things, there would be a pretty big outcry and a whole lot of advice to the effect that her spouse is abusive.
But here I'm seeing "Oh, it's bipolar. You need to help the poor dear."
I'm not sure if this is the way a wife should act in the marriage. This is really my first marriage and I'm 25 years old and she's 24.
We've been together for 2 years, engaged for a couple months and married for a year now. The problem is for the past 5 months every time we argue, she gets into these ridiculous tantrums and suddenly it's all my fault all the time. Most of the time I don't even start arguing; she does.
In her tantrums, she stomps on things, calls me the most horrible names and even throws objects. I've having a hard time dealing with her sudden mood swings and so I keep leaving but this is stressing me out. What happened to the woman I once dated, proposed to and married? There weren't these weird tantrums.
It gets to the point I have watch what I'm going say or do because then all this hell starts again and once she gets to that point, it takes her several days later to talk to me.
I just want to make her happy and it seems like I can't do anything right. Last time, I left angrily and this almost caused me to crashed my car. She kept screaming in my face and honestly, she scared me. It seemed like at any time she would have probably hit me or something.
And lately, she's having issues with some of my family members.
Haven't read the rest of the comments, so forgive me if I'm repeating the obvious....BUT how do you know this isn't the woman you married? You can't seriously expect to truly know someone after a few short months enough to become engaged. Once you are engaged, very few people are willing to call it off even if there are red flags popping up all over the place. So the truth is that you didn't know your wife prior to making a SERIOUS commitment and now you are seeing the real her. She's still awfully young and obviously immature . She's not ready to be anyone's wife. Don't make babies with her!
I'm not sure if this is the way a wife should act in the marriage. This is really my first marriage and I'm 25 years old and she's 24.
We've been together for 2 years, engaged for a couple months and married for a year now. The problem is for the past 5 months every time we argue, she gets into these ridiculous tantrums and suddenly it's all my fault all the time. Most of the time I don't even start arguing; she does.
In her tantrums, she stomps on things, calls me the most horrible names and even throws objects. I've having a hard time dealing with her sudden mood swings and so I keep leaving but this is stressing me out. What happened to the woman I once dated, proposed to and married? There weren't these weird tantrums.
It gets to the point I have watch what I'm going say or do because then all this hell starts again and once she gets to that point, it takes her several days later to talk to me.
I just want to make her happy and it seems like I can't do anything right. Last time, I left angrily and this almost caused me to crashed my car. She kept screaming in my face and honestly, she scared me. It seemed like at any time she would have probably hit me or something.
And lately, she's having issues with some of my family members.
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BPD. She has it. Its only going to get worse from here. She is bat**** crazy unfortunately.
Thats why you don't rush to get married. You don't know marry anyone before 1 year. You can barely know anyone in like 8 months.
Sounds like my life. Let's run away together and move to Japan.
Is she abusing substances? If not, seems like she has a mental health disorder like bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder. Sounds like hell. Good luck.
I'm very sorry you're going through this. I have the same problem with my husband and we are currently in counseling. 1st off we've been married 12 years and the abuse (name calling, belittle in public)been going on the entire time. He blamed me as well and I believed him.
She won't go to counseling. Not unless you threaten her ( I want out of this marriage is what I said). We've been in counseling for 6 month. Nothing!!! No progress!! It's still my fault because I **** him off, and I'm a "dumb ass." He's a college educated person btw.
These people are crazy. Don't wait 12 years like me. GET OUT NOW!
Perhaps it's time to leave her. And then, once you're in a safe place where she can't physically harm you or stalk you, let her know that unless she gets help, you are separating from her and then getting a divorce. Let her know that you care for her and you love her and you want to be with her, but you cannot take the abuse any longer, and if she doesn't get help for her anger and her violent acts, you have no choice but to protect yourself and your family.
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