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I need some advice. There is this guy at my work who doesn't talk to me. When I work with him, he has no problem talking to my other coworkers. A few people at work asked him and he said he was shy and that i shouldn't take it personally. When I say hi to him, he acts like he doesn't want to talk to me or gets upset. I know I shouldn't let this bother me but it does. One day i confronted him and he said i didn't do anything or offend him in anyway. I really don't know if he is telling the truth or not. When I'm at work I try to ignore him or if we pass I'll say hi. I'm wondering if I did more damage since I said something. Im having a hard time letting go of this. The worst thing about it is that I may have a crush on him. What do you guys think of situation? Thanks.
I'm the same way as him around female co-workers that are of a dateable age. I'm not interested in dating co-workers, but I'm still unable to get over my shyness when I'm around them. And therefore I don't talk to them much.
If you want, I guess you could ask him out. The main reason a workplace romance is tricky, though, is what if there is some other guy that likes you ? If you choose this other guy to date, that risks creating tension in the workplace. And I mean real interpersonal tension, not a tempest of frustration inside your own mind.
Personally I wouldn't want to date someone who I'm constantly trying to get attention from. I don't think you did anything wrong but he may be a little nervous that you might confront him again. Usually you can tell when someone's into you, and maybe he just isn't. Sorry
I think you are at work to work, not to hook up. Act professional maybe and then it won't be a problem. People can tell when someone else is acting inappropriately in their head even if they don't exhibit out right sexual aggression. Maybe he has someone or just prefers to keep work professional and not a dating game.
As a shy guy, I see things differently perhaps than some of the other folks here. If he is single, I'd say he actually likes you. My guess is that both of you are fairly young, perhaps in your 20s. You didn't say if it was a professional job or perhaps a part time job in a store somewhere. Adding to his shyness was that some co-workers asked him if he had a problem with you, either implying or out right admitting that they had talked about this to you. Later, you then ask him the same thing.
Not sure of his status, though I'd wager he is unattached. Try being friends with him. Be friendly. Take a break at the same time. Get a drink from the water fountain when he does. See where it leads. Maybe he'll ask you out or you'll ask him out. Or maybe not.
This comes from someone who met his future wife at work. It was so obvious to our co-workers that we should be together that a few seperate people told both of us that if one of us didn't ask th othe one out, they were going to do it for us.
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How does he get upset? Does he look visibly irritated at you?
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