Is it worth chasing him? Guys please answer (dating, married, women)
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I am in law enforcement. There are 1 and 2 breaks. I am on on shift 1. And this other Lt is on 2 break.
when he first arrived on the other shift he worked a couple of nights on our shift to cover someone. I told one of my co-workers who I trust, i told her I think the LT is cute and once she gets some alone time ask him if he is married, but not to tell him it's from me.
Well later on that night she called and told me the conversation between her and the LT she told me he is not married and told him that i think he is cute and that i am interested in him, and he said anything is possible. And she also told me the ball is in my court. ( co-workers are not allowed to date anybody on the job but they won't be fired all they do is move them)
So i freaked out after she did that and so now he knows. A month after that he saw me at training we didn't talk but we did look at eachother.
And one night i had to work on his shift for 1 night and i stood in briefing looking right past him at something and after he was finished everybody looked at me and i looked at him and he asked if i was tired and that he was tired too.
So later on the night he came to visit me and asked can i help him by working overtime on his shift and i told him no i want to go to the gym instead.. and then a few minutes later we finally got a chance to be alone and i cannot remember how we started chatting but i told him he looks like he lost some weight and he told he had some surgery and what gym he goes to (which is the same gym as mine) and he starts telling me what time and whats days he goes to the gym and he asked me when do i go to the gym and i told him it varies and then he tells me what he eats and stuff. In my opnion he is sorta of shy.
my co-worker believes something can happen and its a possible that he and and I can get to know eachother better, but i am the one who should have asked him at the moment to workout with someobdy and i have nothing to lose because i wouldn't have to bump into him. He knows i like him.
I am so sorry for my grammer but I am sleepy and just about to hit the bed.
Last edited by Hourglass45; 05-23-2013 at 08:07 AM..
Reason: I need to add a poll
Are you 16?? Did you pass him a note after study hall? Why didn't you just go up and introduce yourself if you were interested? If he was interested he would have made a move, or maybe he respects the no dating rule. You're not supposed to date coworkers. Do you think you are above the rules? Those rules are there for a reason. Maybe you should be focused on doing your job and not flirting with coworkers? Just a thought.
A guy is much more in trouble at work for chasing a woman if she doesn't respond as vice versa. So, often guys send out signals but don't make the first move, because they are scared of the harassment suits and getting fired.
How about working a few shifts with him and see if he is worth dating?
Find out when he will be going to the gym and setup a time to meet him there. Ask him if he can show you a few exercises to get into shape. Nothing wrong with doing this. Women should NEVER chase a man. But there is nothing wrong with showing some interest.
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