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So I went to a bar last night with some friends, mostly attractive girls and we had alot of fun. There was a gay guy with us, a younger kid, super cool and social. He started talking to table of four girls and figured that one of them was most attractive. He then joined us outside and told me that i should approach this girl, because she is nice and very attractive. I checked her out for a minute and thought she was somewhat attractive but certainly not the most attractive girl in a bar, which is someone Id usually approach.
I told him that Ill think about it and maybe go over and talk to her at some point. Few minutes later he brings me her phone number and says "I pointed you out to her and she thought you were cute and wrote down her number for you in like 10 seconds". The girls I was hanging with started giggling and we got into this whole conversation about straight world versus gay world approaches. We explained to him, that in the straight world a guy approaches a girl himself and doesn't ask his buddy to go over and get a number, because that would be a pansy and an indirect way to approach a woman. He seemed shocked that thats the case and told us that this is not how it works in the gay world.
Most girls said that if this happened to them, they would simply tell the guy to come up himself and ask for a phone number, which makes perfect sense. What do you think of this whole deal? Is there an actual difference in straight world versus gay world approaches? Is there any other differences between the two that stand out to you? Have you ever had anything like this happen in your life?
I have a couple of gay friends and I have noticed they are much more bold when approaching potential partners and much more receptive to being approached. Love it.
He was engaging her in conversation and probably could see past her appearance to her real personality. Either way, YOU got her phone number and next week you'll be posting and cranking you are dateless and desperate.
It think this is more of a your approach vs. his approach thing as opposed to a straight vs. gay thing. To me, it sounds like he was just being your wingman.
He was engaging her in conversation and probably could see past her appearance to her real personality. Either way, YOU got her phone number and next week you'll be posting and cranking you are dateless and desperate.
It think this is more of a your approach vs. his approach thing as opposed to a straight vs. gay thing.
i disagree
i've met many straight women who feel comfortable around gay acquaintances in a way they don't around straight acquaintances. since they feel they don't have to constantly worry about the gay guys trying to get in their pants
probably this dude just leveraged that (perhaps without realizing it), and if so his particular wingman approach worked in a way that was connected to him being gay
i'm not sure that's really related to how a gay person would pick up on another gay person though (aka "gay world"). i don't really know about that. in my personal experience when gay guys hit on me i've noticed they seem to be pretty direct. similar to the most confident of straight men. but i don't feel qualified to make a generalization
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