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This happened to me 5 years ago and I will spare the details, but if I could just spare another woman out there from this kind of heartache--
Happily married now, but still and yet, just curious--
WHY DO guys do this to women? They will date you and tell you they never plan on getting married, or re-married, later on one of you decides to end it. Then a year later you find out he got married or remarried, after all that talk!
Oh and I have read the book "He's Just Not That Into You" and will admit this--My current hubby's behavior during courtship was NOTHING like my ex's (the one who told me ad infinitum, "i ain't never getting married again" and then two years later down the road, he's RE-MARRIED!)
Thanks
In some instances like these the guy may honestly not want to get married at one stage in life and years down the road change their mind. I do not think this is the situation you are setting up here.
In your situation, I think the guy was interested enough in you to date you but not interested in a commitment with you. So to try and keep you interested in dating, while preventing greater expecations of too much more down the road, he tells you he never wants to get married to try and avoid any future discussion of increased commitment between the two of you.
In other words, he wants to date you casually, but wants you to think he is really into you so you do not dump him.
Checkered, no this is not rhetorical, I broke up with my ex back in 2008, a year later, Mr Right came along and we have been together since, married in 2012. I just didn't go into great detail.
Not everybody you date is going to want to marry you...or even be marriage minded when you are dating...it's part timing and part finding the one that makes you change your mind...
Who I feel sorry for are girls that wait around for a guy for years with their bio-clock ticking away...only to be dumped and have the guy marry a younger girl and start a family...
What do you care, OP? You're already married. My husband had a kid with his ex, he doesn't have a relationship with his 1 and only son.
He told me he does not want kids ever. My sister said he just does not want to have kids with me. It did not even cross my mind in fact my husband himself said - don't think that I just do not want to have kids with you. He said at his age 44 he just don't want kids anymore.
Checkered, no this is not rhetorical, I broke up with my ex back in 2008, a year later, Mr Right came along and we have been together since, married in 2012. I just didn't go into great detail.
If the guy you're married to is Mr. Right why do you give a rat's ass that Mr. Wrong changed his mind about marriage?
To answer the question, maybe he was putting you off, or maybe something happened to change his outlook on marriage. It's not uncommon at all for people to change how they feel about these sort of things.
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