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Only if there is some baby powder sitting within hands reach
Hmmm, when I head south I think the smell of baby powder would be a turn-off. Probably because I used it on my kids butts...that would be all I could think of
Yes and no.
I'll never be healthy, so that's kind of a non-issue for me. I will try to stay as healthy-ish as I can possibly be, but I have my good and bad days.
As for the outside, I know I have more surgeries in the future, I know I'll have to get a hip replacement in the next 10 years so really I can only do so much to stay 'pretty' for my hypothetical partner. By default he would have to like something other than my 'outside' for a relationship to work, which is probably why I've been single for so many years.
So, an obligation to try your best? Yes. But it should be to make yourself happy, not your partner. You can't expect someone to love you when you don't love yourself.
I think the OP is just fine, as long as you're partner has the same freedom, and as long as you were honest about it before you make or made any long term commitments. However, if someone worked very hard to make themselves attractive, and then after they got married, let themselves go, then its deception and trickery.
Yes. No one should let themselves go. They could dress a lot more casual, sweat pants is no problem (not everyday) but if you want your partner to remain attracted to you, don't let yourself go. A relaxed approach to diet and exercise is ok, though. Relax, but not so much people will say "he / she really let himself go."
Nobody is obligated to do anything BUT if you start to look like Jabba the Hutt and dress like The People of Walmart, don't be shocked if your spouse loses interest.
Do you believe that a married man or woman has an obligation to try really hard to look their best for their partners? For example, not letting themselves go, exercising/dieting regularly, and wearing attractive clothes instead of trying to look like a slob (sweatpants and baggy shirts)?
Without reading any of the other replies, I think you are focussing completely on the wrong thing. It is not that my wife has an obligation to try really hard to look her best for me, it is I have an obligation to accept her for how she is. And the same goes for her.
Without reading any of the other replies, I think you are focussing completely on the wrong thing. It is not that my wife has an obligation to try really hard to look her best for me, it is I have an obligation to accept her for how she is. And the same goes for her.
Stop with that nonsense. You wouldn't accept her if she became 600 lbs.
While morbid obesity of that magnitude does exist, examples are outliers. If you need to prove your point by referencing such an unlikely scenario, it speaks to how fundamentally flawed your argument is.
Do you believe that a married man or woman has an obligation to try really hard to look their best for their partners? For example, not letting themselves go, exercising/dieting regularly, and wearing attractive clothes instead of trying to look like a slob (sweatpants and baggy shirts)?
An "obligation"?? Ummm...no, of course not. Some people really don't give damn what they look like, nor do their partners. Others are. We're all different.
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