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Naw... everyone I've ever known in my life wouldn't subscribe to the callous attitude of just dumping kids like it's not the latest fashion...... nope... ain't buying it....a small minority perhaps... not the majority....
Just only happens on the bullshyt world that is CD........
If you don't agree with what my friend may do in case of a divorce, then don't comment in here!
I'm just trying to say,even if the judge does give Mom custody,in effect,DAD is still dumping the kids,just on mom instead of the system.
Men do it 95% of the time,and no one says a thing.
I will admit I don't know how courts decide who gets custody.
If I were the lady in the op I would at least try to get lots of child support and spousal support.
In the past it was done frequently.
It still is.
If a teen mom decided to adopt her baby out,is she dumping her kid?
If they divorce,well, one of them is still basically dumping the kids.
If mom get custody,dad is dumping the kids,right?
No. Giving a baby up for adoption before it even comes out or knows who you are is not "dumping" the child.
Raising a child so that the child comes to depend on you and see you as it's source of unconditional love and survival, only to suddenly hurt and confuse the child by abandoning it so that YOU can avoid a perceived stigma is not even close to the same thing.
Divorcing parents may not live in the same household, but they still parent the child. And when they don't, when they disappear, the child ends up deeply damaged over it.
This is not a game of tit for tat to be played between the adults. The child is the defenseless one here, their needs should come first. You cannot justify abandoning a child by claiming "well so and so did it!"
Actually,many do.
Someone on another CD forum even thinks kids with single moms on welfare should be put in orphanages until the mothers get back on their feet. So many people,I think a majority agreed with him.
No. Giving a baby up for adoption before it even comes out or knows who you are is not "dumping" the child.
Raising a child so that the child comes to depend on you and see you as it's source of unconditional love and survival, only to suddenly hurt and confuse the child by abandoning it so that YOU can avoid a perceived stigma is not even close to the same thing.
Divorcing parents may not live in the same household, but they still parent the child. And when they don't, when they disappear, the child ends up deeply damaged over it.
This is not a game of tit for tat to be played between the adults. Te child is the defenseless one here, their needs should come first.
Thanks for being a another voice of reason in this thread... I don't even have kids myself and some of the responses in this thread have been shocking and completely mind blowing.. the callous screw it nature of raising children that has been mentioned here is scary......
I don't understand how one parent that doesn't live in the household can still "parent" a child.
There isn't a "perceived"stigma against single moms,it is real stigma.
They are called welfare cheats,whores who can't keep their legs closed,selfish,basically everything in the book.
I'm just trying to say,even if the judge does give Mom custody,in effect,DAD is still dumping the kids,just on mom instead of the system.
Men do it 95% of the time,and no one says a thing.
I will admit I don't know how courts decide who gets custody.
If I were the lady in the op I would at least try to get lots of child support and spousal support.
Exactly, men do it all the time and nobody bats an eye.
Although I don't know my friend's spouse too well, he doesn't seem to be making that much money so she trying to empty his pockets wouldn't make any sense for her. This is a woman who clearly said she'd give her kids for adoption if her and her spouse would decide to split. So, why would she have any business taking care of kids she clearly don't want to raise if she becomes single? For extra money? Why? She seems to be making more as an IT senior network administrator (I think her man works as a mechanic).
I don't understand how one parent that doesn't live in the household can still "parent" a child.
There isn't a "perceived"stigma against single moms,it is real stigma.
They are called welfare cheats,whores who can't keep their legs closed,selfish,everything in the book.
Unless the non custodial parent has unlimited visitation, that other parent can still be in the kids lives as much as possible.
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