Love at first sight may have a biological basis (wife, married, man)
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hmmm-I never thought love at first sight was real-anyways an interesting read.
That's an interesting article. What I would like to know is *why* I like the people (in my particular situation, person) I do (and it was the so-called "love at first sight" thing too, so this whole thing applies very particularly to the situation). The article says (regarding animals) it's who they're "genetically compatible with". If it does in fact translate into people, then what does this mean? And particularly what does it mean for me?
I'm aware of the whole attractive hypothesis regarding attraction other people have for "good-looking" people and the genetic basis of that theory (something along the lines of that if they appear more "attractive" they will likely be more healthy and provide more healthy offspring). Aren't most people familiar with that idea?
What is really aggravating for me is that this theory doesn't apply in my situation; if it did, I would just say, "Oh, he looks good so I'm attracted to him because I think he can provide me with healthy children. Alright, I can understand that." But according to most objective opinions I have found, this person doesn't look "good", he looks rather sickly to most people! So why, why, why, why, why, why, why why????????????????? do I find him attractive? [this is a problem which has been irritating me for quite some time, perhaps that might be clear; nevertheless I apologize for the moment of psychotic-ness (or would the word be "psychosis"? I don't know--it didn't sound right)].
So then do I want sickly children? Is that what I'm suppose to gather from all this? I don't know. As I said, it's been bothering me for so, so, so long (Apologize for the incredibly self-involved post; there's likely no answer to it. I was more or less just venting).
I don't think the article proved love at first sight. It only proved attraction at first sight. You're less likely to fall in love with someone that you didn't give a chance because you weren't initially attracted to them. However, there are plenty of cases of friends falling in love over time, too.
I don't think the article proved love at first sight. It only proved attraction at first sight. You're less likely to fall in love with someone that you didn't give a chance because you weren't initially attracted to them. However, there are plenty of cases of friends falling in love over time, too.
Interesting.. some people I first meet them, I instantly feel comfortable with.. some people not so much. Maybe it's also very subconscious on top of the biological factor, and other times, I question had I met this person at another time of day or another place would I still feel the same? Likely so.
I stopped believing in love at first sight years ago. However, one of my favorite professors in college married a man who fell in love with her at first sight. They were together until he died. She followed a few years later.
I've definitely felt connections at first sight. The guy I'm interested in right now really struck my fancy and I was just so curious about him because there was just something so beautiful and charming about him. I assumed he was married and thought, "I hope his wife knows how lucky she is." Now if we could only get past our nerves and actually go on a date! (He doesn't have a wife.)
Anyway, this is the part of the article that I felt was most relevant: "In one study on friendships, people who enjoyed the first few minutes together were likely to develop a close relationship after nine weeks."
I've definitely had some very good friendships where we connected immediately and nothing had to build. It was just an instant connection.
I've definitely felt connections at first sight. The guy I'm interested in right now really struck my fancy and I was just so curious about him because there was just something so beautiful and charming about him. I assumed he was married and thought, "I hope his wife knows how lucky she is." Now if we could only get past our nerves and actually go on a date! (He doesn't have a wife.)
I hope one of you works up the nerve. You don't know how lucky you are that you actually found someone you think is charming, beautiful, and interesting that is actually within a physical distance from you (and apparently available).
hmmm-I never thought love at first sight was real-anyways an interesting read.
Of course it does. It's nature's way of getting us to breed. Not a bad thing, but as the article mentions, it doesn't necessarily mean the relationship is going to last. Being in love usually lasts about 2 years before the practical realities of real life intervene. If people can't agree on those practical realities, then love dies on the vine.
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