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Old 07-17-2013, 10:02 AM
 
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When women say stuff like, "The only way I could get a date is to lower my standards" don't you think it is an admission that perhaps their standards were too high in the first place? Women who have made this complaint, have you thought critically about this statement? Did you have an unrealistic ideal in mind before reality hit?

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Old 07-17-2013, 10:04 AM
 
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I always date below my standard. Gives me a sense of comfort knowing he can't do better.
 
Old 07-17-2013, 10:07 AM
 
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don't you think it is an admission that perhaps their standards were too high in the first place?
It's possible. It depends on your schedule. The longer you wait, the more likely you'll find someone who better aligns with what you want. Anybody can find somebody soon if they lower their standards enough.
 
Old 07-17-2013, 10:16 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I never had "standards." I met people, I liked them, they liked me, and that was that! Some of them I was attracted to right away. Others grew on me. I dated a lot of awesome guys and I married the best one of all!
 
Old 07-17-2013, 10:21 AM
 
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I really don't think of standards or leagues when I meet someone. There either is an attraction or there isn't. I am assuming you are talking about looks.
 
Old 07-17-2013, 10:23 AM
 
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I dont think their standards are too high per se, but perhaps their view of reality is heavily skewed. When you think that 80% of men are below average looking, chances are you have no idea what average means.
 
Old 07-17-2013, 10:26 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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When women say stuff like, "The only way I could get a date is to lower my standards" don't you think it is an admission that perhaps their standards were too high in the first place? Women who have made this complaint, have you thought critically about this statement? Did you have an unrealistic ideal in mind before reality hit?
Who actually says that? I don't know anyone who has ever said that. I think it's more of a discussion forum phenomenon. It exists in theory, but not so much in practice.
 
Old 07-17-2013, 10:26 AM
 
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While sometimes it really is a lowering of standards, usually it is getting more realistic.
 
Old 07-17-2013, 10:29 AM
 
Location: Des Moines IA
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Look up woman lowering her standards in the dictionary, and you see a picture of me right next to it...
 
Old 07-17-2013, 10:30 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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While sometimes it really is a lowering of standards, usually it is getting more realistic.
That's pretty true. I've got some basic standards, but I don't consider them unrealistic to the point where a guy who meets those standards doesn't exist.
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