Jealous Girlfriend, Sometimes Insanely So (date, girl, cheating, children)
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If she's "insane", then dump her then. You're not compatible. Go find someone who's perfectly fine with this (and who does it too!) and she can find someone who is more like her.
LOL - Actually, I probably missed the group wisdom when it comes to this topic.
I'm all about context. If I were having private conversations with someone on a daily basis, I know that may not be appropriate.
But comments passed around among regulars on a board like this? I think she's insane. This isn't that much different than a group meeting up for coffee.
Who's the crazy one?
Now come on
Why are you asking us when you already know the answer to your question?
If you stay with such a person then she won't be the only "crazy" one.
As soon as I read the title I knew this would be this posters first post.
Well that was really helpful.
Huzzah.
Poor guy is probably locked in his bathroom with this laptop asking for help.
Why do I keep posting on the relationship forum when I'm single, I guess I've made enough bad decisions of my own to know a little...when I see someone going through something I recognize, I want to say something to help.
So here goes, you should probably have a serious discussion about how this obscure jealousy is going to totally destroy the relationship.
I think you aren't wrong for having a life, having people you communicate with, for socializing.
It sounds like shes got issues to work out.
I once burned all my bridges to appease my ex, but it wasn't my bridges that were the issue, it was his jealousy, and it didn't stop with me discontinuing my friendships for his issues, it went on and on for years. It was about him controlling his jealousy. Which really didn't have anything to do with me. Except I lost a lot of good friends.
I would seriously NOT recommend that.
Consider that point before you bow to her jealousy.
Have you tried insisting that she come along to one of the gatherings, knowing that the other woman's husband will be there as well?
I asked both times it has happened and she did not want to go.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
I steer clear of jealousy. Major deal-breaker.
I think the answer to that is that it depends. Sometimes people are jealous until they completely settle into a relationship. After that, they are okay. If you cut them loose before they've had a chance to settle in, you might be cutting someone loose prematurely who might be otherwise a great person.
I agree, however, that long-term jealousy is NOT a good place to be.
Have you tried insisting that she come along to one of the gatherings, knowing that the other woman's husband will be there as well?
I agree - or maybe even just the woman with out her husband. Maybe once she sees what type of relationship you have with her - she won't be so jealous. My father was a very social person - but he had a severe, progressive hearing loss that affected his ability to be social in person after awhile. He loved going on forums and talking to other people. A lot of them were single or divorced - but my mom trusted him because she knew he had no interest in them beyond being friends. I think they both met some of his friends from the forum in person. And this was years ago - at least 10 years ago or so - when forums and such were not as popular and known about as they are now. So - yes, it is possible for a woman to not be jealous in this type of situation. But everyone is different. If you love her and want to make things work - I suggest sitting down with her and having an honest discussion about what place she has in your life and what place the forums and your friends from there have in your life. However, it could be that she just has some trust issues and may not be the right person for you.
Now, if my husband suddenly started meeting up with women from a forum, I would find it really strange. He's not a social person and has no interest in any forum that isn't about Alabama football!
Don't hide anything from her. Let her see all of your interactions with this person, and everyone else if possible. She will soon get bored, else she is indeed insane as you say. Speaking of, why do you have a gf whom you consider insane?
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