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What do you think about it? Is male abuse a real thing? I invite both women and men to weigh in.
(I have a feeling life might do some crazy thing to me now that I'm saying this. I told someone once that I felt lucky that I didn't have wisdom teeth. Sure enough one ruptured through my gums over the next couple of days I said that.)
I consider myself lucky to have never experienced a full on abusive relationship but I have gone through some kind of thing where the person I was "friends" with seemed to be a little controlling. I mean she only called when she needed something like a dust pan or a bandage. (Of all the people to call when they just slit their wrists it had to be me. That pretty mush ended it for me. Its also a very long story that I'm not going to get into.)
Anyway, what do you think? I understand that there are people (both male and female) out there who can be cruel.
What do you think about it? Is male abuse a real thing? I invite both women and men to weigh in.
(I have a feeling life might do some crazy thing to me now that I'm saying this. I told someone once that I felt lucky that I didn't have wisdom teeth. Sure enough one ruptured through my gums over the next couple of days I said that.)
I consider myself lucky to have never experienced a full on abusive relationship but I have gone through some kind of thing where the person I was "friends" with seemed to be a little controlling. I mean she only called when she needed something like a dust pan or a bandage. (Of all the people to call when they just slit their wrists it had to be me. That pretty mush ended it for me. Its also a very long story that I'm not going to get into.)
Anyway, what do you think? I understand that there are people (both male and female) out there who can be cruel.
Of course men can be abused. And of course they should have someplace to turn to to deal with everything. However, I fail to see your story as being abuse. I know you said you left a lot out - but it's sort of like me saying, "My husband is an awful man. Sometimes he asks me to buy him stuff at the store. And he turned to me when he was upset. That pretty much ended the marriage. I'm leaving a lot out."
The thing with the band-aid was sort of a short occurrence. One night while I was on my walk she called asking if I had a bandage because she had just slit her wrists. I was extremely worried so I asked a guy
I was hanging out with if he had a band-aid. He gave me one of the non-adhesive gauze patches because it was all he had. When I took it to her she gave it back because it was the wrong type.
As for the dustpan. The first time she ever called me was to borrow a dustpan. I brought it over and cleaned her patio. The second time I did this she paid me so I guess that wasn't so bad. Honestly these two things weren't that big if deal to me. What happened after was kind of off putting though. We went to a bar a little later. We had a few drinks and her friend showed up. They were going to a different bar with other friends or something. Either way, I felt a little put off by this (maybe my issues with this was that I wasn't invited?)
I think I included that part because I was thinking of these things people do in the early stages of certain relationships called "**** tests". (I'm sorry about the use of language.)
They talk about it on this internet radio thing from the same blog:
It seemed like she was doing a couple of these tests on me for whatever reason. Not a general control issue completely or an issue of her controlling me but still. It did feel like I was only being being called because she needed something from me. When I think about it now I think it is possible that I might have been overreacting and my own issues caused me to feel a little put off by the whole thing.
When I typed the original post out I might have gotten my thoughts completely jumbled and disorganized. I really have to learn to think before I post. The story in the middle was probably supposed to be part of some kind of sub-topic about this testing thing. If I offended anyone I'm sorry.
Wow. I didn't notice the topic was discussed before.
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