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To answer your question OP, yes a man can be abused by his gf or wife. Anyone (man or woman) that abuses another person because of their physical weakness, their unwillingness to fight back or morals is nothing but a bully.
Men have suffered with emotional abuse/coercion and physical abuse. Guys have had women threaten them by telling them they will kill them when they are sleeping. They kick, they shove, they bite. Its abuse. And it doesn't have anything to do with size. It has everything to do with what a person thinks they can get away with and what they believe will tip the scales in their favor. It ups the ante every time.
Kin Atoms, I have been reading about some of the things that you mention in the blog posts on the website I mentioned. There seems to be a vicious cycle that goes on. The lady who writes the articles seems talk about the emotional and psychological abuse that gets involved in the relationship. Although she does acknowledge the physical aspects as well.
I have seen this firsthand, I used to know a couple that were a time bomb, she was so abusive to him, but her excuse was that he deserved it because he was a useless alcoholic.
And of course, he was using alcohol to tune out the evil shrew.
WHY did they stay together? I guess it was co-dependant heaven. But the rest of us pulled away. Who can stand to see two people treat each other like that?
Yes, other stories, of men being abused come to mind but, I'll save it for my novel... Its just sad when two people make a living hell for each other...it could be so different.
The site mentions the hard times people have with their abusive spouses. Of course many of the people they are dealing with also have personality disorders to complicate things. Besides that, some of the psychologists, the courts, marriage and relationship counselors etc. don't or can't do anything because, either they don't really know what's going on, there's social stigma involved or, in some cases because some of the abusers play the victim to get sympathy or lie to get friends, neighbors, even relatives on their side.
Below is one of the craziest blog posts I've read on the site (although I've seen some sick posts and replies.):
You're trying to beat up a "hidden problem" but the fact is, any guy is stronger than any woman.
He does not have to tolerate abuse, he can walk away.
He is more likely to have a well paying job, be able to get an apartment, be able to leave the kids behind, be able to skip out on child support.
The idea of men as helpless victims of angry women is just ridiculous really.
You obviously haven't seen what some women are capable of. Even if a man leaves - that doesn't assure that everything will turn out alright.
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