If youre perceived as boring--where to draw the line in personal change (sociopaths, women)
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although i am definitely not perceived as boring once there is chemistry with another person(and those who know me tell me I am not boring tho yes they say it is definitely possible that those who don't know me well will perceive it that way), in the average social and work situation I am most likely perceived as boring because many don't know me. it bothers me in one way tho in another it doesn't because there are those who don't see it that way
when it comes to personal change, where does one draw the line? change to avoid the boring label by others, or change to feel better about myself?
much of my perception by others that i am boring at work is because due to my past bad experiences (which i don't have any more of since i am so adept at spotting con artists and sociopaths) i don't trust others and won't even go to any office parties or get into any conversations with those i feel are going to "lead a blind horse down a blind path"(that blind horse being me)
unfortunately i also carry this view into my life outside of work too
but anyway where do you draw the line? in a way i don't really care that much but the idea that others consider me boring still stings. i don't know why i care since those people don't know me well
no matter how much i tell myself not to care it still stings
this could be a symptom of some OCD tendencies or could it be a wake up call that i need to change for others??
although i am definitely not perceived as boring once there is chemistry with another person(and those who know me tell me I am not boring tho yes they say it is definitely possible that those who don't know me well will perceive it that way), in the average social and work situation I am most likely perceived as boring because many don't know me. it bothers me in one way tho in another it doesn't because there are those who don't see it that way
when it comes to personal change, where does one draw the line? change to avoid the boring label by others, or change to feel better about myself?
much of my perception by others that i am boring at work is because due to my past bad experiences (which i don't have any more of since i am so adept at spotting con artists and sociopaths) i don't trust others and won't even go to any office parties or get into any conversations with those i feel are going to "lead a blind horse down a blind path"(that blind horse being me)
unfortunately i also carry this view into my life outside of work too
but anyway where do you draw the line? in a way i don't really care that much but the idea that others consider me boring still stings. i don't know why i care since those people don't know me well
no matter how much i tell myself not to care it still stings
this could be a symptom of some OCD tendencies or could it be a wake up call that i need to change for others??
Try to be out going.
Say hi, smile. Get to know names and things about the person behind the name.
I just quit my second job and so many people were sad.
There were over 30 businesses in the complex that I did maintenance for. My last day people were hugging me and very sad. People gave me gifts and I got pictures with many people.
I made it a goal to greet people as if they were my best friend when I saw them. I introduced myself and made sure I remembered their name. When I saw them again I would say, "Hey! How's John today?" If they had time to talk, I listened. I then remembered everything they told me.
always do everything with the mentality that it is of vital importance that everyone you're on speaking terms with know what you have to say.
also, make sure everything you have to say is either funny or interesting
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